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Lost the ability to cry

Started by dmx, October 31, 2011, 04:31:54 PM

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bojangles

Happened to me very early. One of my favorite changes.

For me, it's like a form of justice or balance. I hated crying. It was the girliest thing about me and caused much embarrassment and grief when I just could not shut it off. No more. Good riddence. There is still some ability to tear up, but that's a trait of a grown man who feels.
That is acceptable.

The need to do something physical with emotional stuff has been there for me a long time.
Probably a good thing to have already learned.
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J.T.

Pre-T I would cry out of frustration, which was really frustrating.  I didn't do it on purpose, it just came out.  Thankfully that is gone now.

When I first started T, probably the first year, I was UNABLE to cry.  I went through some emotional stuff but was unable to let it out and it was so frustrating to not have a release.

I don't know when it came back, but I'm able to cry now.  I don't cry as much as I used to which is awesome, but I am able to get wet eyes/a few tears when the moment calls for it.
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wheat thins are delicious

While I do hate not being able to have a good cry after a long frustrating day as I mentioned earlier what I do love is that now I don't cry like I used to at work.  Before anytime I had confrontation with anyone or was dealing with tough customers I would start crying.  Hard to have a conversation with your bosses where you are trying to get them to respect you as a man and you start crying hard.  :/ I hated that.


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Elijah3291

Quote from: Andy8715 on November 03, 2011, 12:25:47 AM
While I do hate not being able to have a good cry after a long frustrating day as I mentioned earlier what I do love is that now I don't cry like I used to at work.  Before anytime I had confrontation with anyone or was dealing with tough customers I would start crying.  Hard to have a conversation with your bosses where you are trying to get them to respect you as a man and you start crying hard.  :/ I hated that.

the customer thing has happened to me a few times, some people are just so damn rude, had to have sucked to start crying though, i feel ya
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beyondlabels

When you say you lost your ability to cry, do you also lose your ability to get emotionaly excited in a positive way?. I am afraid I could lost that if I go on T, because I am a very emotional person and thats one of the greatest sources of happiness I have. I am extremelly sensitive listening to music. It takes me to another world and I often am about to cry, overwhelmed by that feeling of power, freedom and beauty that a distorted electric guitar in punk or heavy metal music creates in my head.. I guess that's a very androgynous state  ;D
I am a musician and music is my life. I am not a woman, I am an emotional man and I am afraid I could lose that.
On the other hand I can't repress crying in many other situations and I would be happy to avoid that. Does testosterone avoid only the crying or also all emotions?
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PixieBoy

I made a vow to myself to stop crying when I was 8 or 9. Ever since then I've felt that crying means a personal failure on my part. I cry about twice a year, when everything becomes way too much for me. I did not cry during my aunt's funeral, and I'm still ashamed of myself because of that, I could feel my throat tighten up but my eyes were completely dry. I haven't started T yet.
...that fey-looking freak kid with too many books and too much bodily fat
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dmx

Quote from: beyondlabels on November 03, 2011, 03:59:19 AM
When you say you lost your ability to cry, do you also lose your ability to get emotionaly excited in a positive way?. I am afraid I could lost that if I go on T, because I am a very emotional person and thats one of the greatest sources of happiness I have. I am extremelly sensitive listening to music. It takes me to another world and I often am about to cry, overwhelmed by that feeling of power, freedom and beauty that a distorted electric guitar in punk or heavy metal music creates in my head.. I guess that's a very androgynous state  ;D
I am a musician and music is my life. I am not a woman, I am an emotional man and I am afraid I could lose that.
On the other hand I can't repress crying in many other situations and I would be happy to avoid that. Does testosterone avoid only the crying or also all emotions?

I've become a lot less sentimental and less emotional overall, yes. T has given me a more flat affect. I like it.
Probably not what you wanted to hear, though.  :-\
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