Hello. Yesterday I introduced myself. I am a pre-transition male to female transsexual/transwoman. I live in Minnesota. This is my plan for transitioning.
1. Move out of my parents house again(they don't accept me being transgender), find a roommate(preferably a female either genetic/pre-op/post-op) and around the apt and outside dress as a girl. Not at work yet. Get a real looking wig for when I dress outside of work. Also start facial hair removal process because I shave and after 5 or 6 hours I have a shadow again. Other hair removal can wait until later.
2.Grow out my hair-once it gets to a certain length inform my employer of my wish to transition. If transition is greenlighted: continue growing my hair out, but not too long to affect my work and continue facial hair removal process.
3. Start growing my nails out. Not too long cause I do custodial work. Get ears pierced too.
This part might be the easiest part of my transition is because it's basically pretty much the same as my current dress code:
4. Continue to wear custodial work t-shirt-gender neutral
5. Switch from male khaki's to female khakis and male tennis shoes or hiking boots to female tennis shoes or hiking boots.
6. Wearing panties and flat sports bra under top. By this time I would have already started wearing women's undergarments
and clothes outside of work on a regular basis.
The hard part of the transition is wether or not my employer will let me transition and the reaction of everyone else that works there too.
If I had no facial hair, makeup and longer hair, I would be completely passable. I've dressed up once before for a counseling session and an asperger therapy group session as female. I was totally passable except for the halloween wig. That was on Oct.27th. So it wasn't that long ago. I am still working on my voice. I just need to keep practicing.
Once that part of transition is done try to get therapist or counselor to officially diagnose Gender Identity Disorder/Gender Dysphoria(whatever people want to call it) then start taking female hormones. I want to look, dress, act the part and take hormones, that's enough for my transition. I don't want srs. I had a girlfriend a few years ago, god rest her soul, was a transitioned male to female non-op filipino transsexual. She looked, dressed, acted the part and even started hormones. When I was in a relationship with her I knew I was attracted to male to female transsexuals. She wished to be a girl but she didn't want the srs because it would take away from who she was. She wanted to be exactly who she was: A non-op male to female transwoman. I guess since discovering who I am I would say that I am that way too. I am mostly attracted to other male to female pre-op/non-op transwomen.
I don't have a time frame worked out yet. But that's the plan. I just hope my employer is willing to work to make it a smooth and easy gradual transition for both me and them. I am just working the custodial job at the ymca camp because I needed a job and there is no career that I want to do. No job really interests me enough. So I am asking everyone who reads this to take a look at my transition plan and give some feedback and or advice(if you want to). I would appreciate it. Thanks.
Ida
