Wendy,
Yes I agree, its nice to have other people raise these issues and we can all feel more comfortable sharing. When I first came here I had an embarrassing question that I just had to have answered. I guess my need to know outweighed my need to be accepted here. Turns out I received my answer AND, it seems anyway, that I'm still accepted here. Wow!!!
Don't give up on the big O. That is exactly what my early post dealt with.
Deb