What does mainstream society think when they hear the word "transsexual"?

[mixie]

Why in the world would you point out a transsexual in public and say "That's a man."   That's not a man, that's a woman.   

[Mahsa Tezani]

Why in the world would you point out a transsexual in public and say "That's a man."   That's not a man, that's a woman.   

Maybe cuz we were young and stupid and didn't know. I saw those types all the time and didn't learn later they were transsexuals. I just thought what was up with that man...

I wouldn't do that now...

[Mahsa Tezani]

Looks better than most genetic girls.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Looks better than most genetic girls.

she does look fine, but people associate a transsexual with someone who is a sex object or like a prostitute. that's what i was getting across.

[Mahsa Tezani]

she does look fine, but people associate a transsexual with someone who is a sex object or like a prostitute. that's what i was getting across.

Oh... Whats wrong with lookin like a prostitute? Rather be that than some dungeon dragon nerd...

[Mahsa Tezani]

Why in the world would you point out a transsexual in public and say "That's a man."   That's not a man, that's a woman.   

You proved that transsexual women do look different to genetic girls. I don't turn off my male objective side when looking at my own kind. No matter how crappy or good they look.

[Inanna]

Rather be that than some dungeon dragon nerd...

Maybe there's a reason for this?  Spending your whole childhood and adolescence suppressing your personality, emotions, and everything about who you are, while trying your hardest to be seem normal, isn't exactly a good start to one's social development. 

In school I was severely bullied for behaving effeminately (and a crush on my best friend, but I denied it back then).  Around the beginning of high school, I had completely shut down my real personality and pretended to be as masculine as I possibly could.  As I became more fake, I became more depressed.  I began playing online games, because I could be a girl in those worlds, and guys would give me attention for being girly/cute rather than harass and attack me.  Addicting?  Yes!  It was the only escape I had around my fundamentalist family and southern redneck peers.

In college, I guess you could say I was a reclusive nerd like you're describing until I began transitioning.  I'm 23 now, straight, socially adjusted and as far opposite to my old self as possible.  Buuut... sometimes I still log into those games to talk to my old friends, who don't notice anything different about me.   

[Mahsa Tezani]

Maybe there's a reason for this?  Spending your whole childhood and adolescence suppressing your personality, emotions, and everything about who you are, while trying your hardest to be seem normal, isn't exactly a good start to one's social development. 

In school I was severely bullied for behaving effeminately (and a crush on my best friend, but I denied it back then).  Around the beginning of high school, I had completely shut down my real personality and pretended to be as masculine as I possibly could.  As I became more fake, I became more depressed.  I began playing online games, because I could be a girl in those worlds, and guys would give me attention for being girly/cute rather than harass and attack me.  Addicting?  Yes!  It was the only escape I had around my fundamentalist family and southern redneck peers.

In college, I guess you could say I was a reclusive nerd like you're describing until I began transitioning.  I'm 23 now, straight, socially adjusted and as far opposite to my old self as possible.  Buuut... sometimes I still log into those games to talk to my old friends, who don't notice anything different about me.   

But past a certain point it becomes questionable. I'd rather be out meeting people than playing WoW. I hardly ever play computer games, I have much more to do with my time.

[Annah]

Oh... Whats wrong with lookin like a prostitute? Rather be that than some dungeon dragon nerd...

matter of perspective. I would rather look like a dungeons and dragons nerd than a prostitute any day of the week.

[Mahsa Tezani]

matter of perspective. I would rather look like a dungeons and dragons nerd than a prostitute any day of the week.

So you'd rather be overlooked than looked over?

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

speaking of prostitute, i think it's time for the waitresses.

[Felix]

Omg Mahsa may Gygax's spirit haunt you to your grave. Dungeons and Dragons is so cool! I'm jealous of that kind of nerd. They're usually smart, interesting, creative, and stable. Good people, and sometimes even very good looking people. Have you ever really met any?

[Mahsa Tezani]

Omg Mahsa may Gygax's spirit haunt you to your grave. Dungeons and Dragons is so cool! I'm jealous of that kind of nerd. They're usually smart, interesting, creative, and stable. Good people, and sometimes even very good looking people. Have you ever really met any?

I have.

I prefer taking tequila shots and going to car shows.

[Zaria]

Omg Mahsa may Gygax's spirit haunt you to your grave. Dungeons and Dragons is so cool! I'm jealous of that kind of nerd. They're usually smart, interesting, creative, and stable. Good people, and sometimes even very good looking people. Have you ever really met any?

lol I loved Dungeons and Dragons when I was younger... now I tend to stick to video games

people at work think i am such a nerd they call me 'mega mind'

[x_momoXpanda_x]

well in my opinion i consider The terms tranSexual and transGender very different terms, sexual being in the title implies its an orientation or fetish or something of the like which i think has nothing to do with me but i think its more suitable for cross dressers and such Transgender however is for those of us who are indeed a woman or man with a birth defect, as in my and my fellow sisters' cases a transwoman having a female brain, the nervous system, and blood and such but her gentials are wrong/don't match up and the same goes for a transmen.

[Felix]

I have.

I prefer taking tequila shots and going to car shows.

Oooh. Urk. I like whiskey, vodka, gin, whatever, but tequila makes me queasy. And cars...I dunno. I'd love to be a mechanic, but at the same time, I want to save the world and use bikes and trains.

How about Monopolowa and NBA games? I like that very much.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Oooh. Urk. I like whiskey, vodka, gin, whatever, but tequila makes me queasy. And cars...I dunno. I'd love to be a mechanic, but at the same time, I want to save the world and use bikes and trains.

How about Monopolowa and NBA games? I like that very much.

Wha? If I want to get my masculinity on...I hit a gay bar.

Nothing is more masculine than some gay men.

[Felix]

No way. Vodka isn't masculine, it's just not tequila. And NBA is just not car shows.

[mixie]

well in my opinion i consider The terms tranSexual and transGender very different terms, sexual being in the title implies its an orientation or fetish or something of the like which i think has nothing to do with me but i think its more suitable for cross dressers and such Transgender however is for those of us who are indeed a woman or man with a birth defect, as in my and my fellow sisters' cases a transwoman having a female brain, the nervous system, and blood and such but her gentials are wrong/don't match up and the same goes for a transmen.

This is how I interpreted and used the term "transgender" for such a long time until I realized I was getting it wrong.  I consider a transgender a person with a physical birth defect that is the opposite of their true gender.

But I was told the proper term was transsexual.   Oh well.  I sort of prefer transgender because transsexual sounds like it has something to do with sexuality.