I think we all have bad experiences, especially in the early days.
I had gone out many times, dressed to support meetings and shopping with my friends and thoroughly enjoyed the experiences. Two events spring to mind when things where not so enjoyable.
At my first speech therapy session, I arrived about 15 minutes early and the receptionist was intent on calling me Mr (even though I had legally changed my name), which was not a good start. The waiting room was in a general health centre and was crowded with many people included Children. One small girl (about 5 -6 I guess) looked at me and shouted at the top of her voice... "Mummy, why is that man wearing a skirt?"... Children are so perceptive and can see things through simple eyes. There where lots of giggles and laughter in the room and I learnt that in the early days, it was best to turn up slightly late rather than become the object of public scrutiny.
Secondly, feeling confident is a wonderful thing and you can get over confident. Shortly before transition, I was invited out on a girl friends birthday. I knew 2 of the girls andthe rest did not know me. In the toilets in the bar we where in my best friend just happened to ask me a question about how I was enjoying the evening and was I OK and happy (she knew I was nervous). Shortly after leaving the toilets I was approached by a couple of guys, who wanted to know what a man , dressed as a woman was doing in the toilets. They pushed me against a wall, grabbed my cruch and fondled me. It was an humiliating situation, one that scared me beyond belief as one of the girls (a complete stranger) had heard our conversation and told her boyfriend, who hadtaken offence.
My girl friend was distraught and she realized that she had outed me and her and her friends rounded on the guys and shouted them off me. The lesson learnt that day was about the need for complete discretion and in the early days of transition to avoid places where trouble could possibly come looking for you. It was many months after that I started going out socially again with my friends.
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