How do men treat you?

[ZeldaHeart]

Hi everyone   I want to know how men treat you now that you've gone full time.  From December of 2010 to September of 2011, I had been living as a very androgynous person but finally went full time a month ago and have gotten much more attention from men than before.  While getting a movie at a redbox, a guy started talking to me and being a tease, which never happened before of course!  Men are more polite about holding the door open, like, they'll go out of their way sometimes.  Also, male associates and workers at stores are much more gracious towards me and always ask if I need help.  Not to mention the looks that guys give and you can tell they are paying attention to you (in a good way).  Before your "RLE" or going "full time" how did men treat you in comparison to how they treat you today? 

Also, you could mention how women treat you different too! 

[justmeinoz]

I seem to be passing 100% now, with a few exceptions.  I sometimes get misgendered when wearing my motorcycle gear, until I undo the zipper!  Then I get an apology, so I must be doing something right.  I accept with the good grace of a lady of my age of course.  It's fun when I can show them that I know as much as them about the supposedly masculine activity under discussion too.

Women treat me as one of them, regardless of whether they have learned I am trans or not.  Many seem to be impressed that I have chosen to be one of them, and have left the "Dark Side".  It's like I have been admitted to a secret society! Feels great.

Karen.

[Bird]

The guys who have been told about my transness or knew me before transition, usually behave a bit more politely than they would but they keep a safe distance.

The others threat me as they would with another female, what is really cool.

All the women I know accept me as one of them.

[Mahsa Tezani]

As I command.

[AmySmiles]

I definitely get guys flirting with me a lot now, whereas before I went full time it was ... never.  They'll just randomly start talking to me, give me big smiles, or I've even had some hold the door for me while I was still 30 seconds away.  I'm sure if I wore makeup more often I'd get more attention, but since I think I'm probably a lesbian that's really not something I want more of.

[Colleen Ireland]

I haven't noticed any actual flirtation, but men definitely treat me with deference, and sometimes fall all over themselves to be chivalrous.  We're talking mainly older men here (I'm 55).  The women treat me like one of them, whether they know I'm trans or not (and there are an increasing number that DON'T know, for instance I've joined a church choir recently as guitarist, it's mostly women, and they all treat me as a woman, including one who shows signs of offering friendship).  So I guess I'm passing pretty well these days.  Been fulltime about 7 months.

In bed, I've had TWO men treat me as the woman I am! (!)

[Rebekah with a K-A-H]

A couple straight guys that I know love talking to me about their relationship triumphs and travails.  Something about me also being attracted to women but also not male means that I've had several of them feel comfortable opening up to me.

Women are a mixed bag.  I've loved that queer women have been paying attention to me, and I like that straight women don't treat me like some sort of curio, but it's definitely a different dynamic with straight girls, and a lot of them are wary of even friendly affection.

[Mahsa Tezani]

A couple straight guys that I know love talking to me about their relationship triumphs and travails.  Something about me also being attracted to women but also not male means that I've had several of them feel comfortable opening up to me.

I thought, "Now I'm the girl hearing about the boys bad relationship".... I used to be the gay best friend. I used to hear all about the girls bad relationships.

[Rebekah with a K-A-H]

I thought, "Now I'm the girl hearing about the boys bad relationship".... I used to be the gay best friend. I used to hear all about the girls bad relationships.

Yeah, I'm the distaff counterpart to the pet homosexual.  It's a full-time job.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Yeah, I'm the distaff counterpart to the pet homosexual.  It's a full-time job.

Meh...at least gay boys don't whine to me their boy problems. I had enough of that for one lifetime.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Even when I was a femme boy, I got treated like a girl...By men.