Opinions on Feminine Transmen?

[aydan_boy]

Hey Peoples!

Its been a bittersweet few months. I'm right now in a great relationship with a girl who I wouldn't trade for the world. Smart, unique, cute. On a sidenote, she's also trans. I'm also still tending to my eating disorder, but step by step, getting better. Kind of. I hit my lowest so far last month, and am not proud to say that saying that makes me feel quite good.

My question to you is: Its been asked a million and two times, but, this is, after all, a site based on gender, gender identity, gender presentation, so I'll just wing it. For a transboykidperson, I'm quite feminine in all and every ways, no doubting it anymore. For you older/younger masculine transguys, what are your opinions on the femme transmen? I've gotten "Fakes", "Confused Wannabes", etc, etc, I really do want to hear your truthful opinions! No one can say that within the trans community there isn't some hatred towards each other for self presentation, or discomfort.

[Nygeel]

Femme trans men are alright. No better or worse than anybody else.

There is a Tumblr for femme ftms. http://femneftm.tumblr.com
Some pictures might be NSFW

[Natkat]

Should we also have a threat asking what femenine transmen thinks of maculine transmen?

[Lee]

I'm not exactly the most masculine guy you'll ever meet, but yeah, I tend to find more stereotypically feminine men (cis or trans) more attractive.  I can't imagine it making you any less of a man.

[cynthialee]

I am a somewhat masculine trans woman and I just love the more fem transguys.
Sorta like my exact opposite.

[insideontheoutside]

I think it's perfectly fine as in some ways I definitely fall into that category. I like having stylish hair and it's definitely one of those things that make me feel more comfortable with myself so damn anyone who tells me I have to have a, "more masculine haircut in order to pass". I also like fashion and wear a lot of women's shoes and jackets (granted, most people can't tell if they're mens or womens because of the style) because I am a small dude and I wear what works, what makes me feel good and what makes me look good. To me, it's not about passing all the time anymore (when it does happen it's nice, I can't lie about that) it's about just being myself and being comfortable with myself.

[Prince Larien]

Well as a feminine transman, I don't think any transperson should judge. (Or any Cisperson for that matter.) I act just like any other feminine dude, I'm described as "camp" and "well groomed" at college. To be honest it actually helps me pass. I've met transmen who are more camp then me and they don't bother me at all.

Although I do have ambitions of being a drag-queen some day

[Felix]

I dig them. 

[anibioman]

i have nothing against fem trans guys as a whole (there are a few i cant stand). im a in the middle type guy by the way, im a kinda artsy straight guy.

[Felix]

Thanks for the link, Nygeel.

Lol tumblr always makes me feel so old and boring. xD

[Nygeel]

Thanks for the link, Nygeel.

Lol tumblr always makes me feel so old and boring. xD

Might've gotten the URL wrong. ftms instead of ftm.

[Felix]

Right I saw that but it was pretty clearly a typo and I got where it was supposed to go.

It is making me reevaluate how girly I actually am. I'm nothing near most of the guys on that site. But then I'm not exactly macho either.

I love femme boys, though.

[Natkat]

I dig them. 

I see
got any plans for the week?

[kesenaie]

Why the hell should I care?
This looks just like another attempt to make others look bad. A transman is a transman, no matter their personality.

[Kreuzfidel]

I'm a masculine type, but I don't really even think about whether or not people are masculine or feminine to be honest.  So femme transguys are to me no different from femme cisguys, masculine ciswomen or masculine/femme transfolk, androgynes, intersex, etc.

[aydan_boy]

Thank-you for all the great responses
I meant this no way in a negative way, I'm sorry for those of you who somehow took some odd ''offense'' to it? I was simply wondering, for in my experience, while most guys, trans or cis, don't really care, there are always a few who seem to have an issue, as if by stating I'm trans, and acting the way I do, I somehow taint others perspectives on transpersons as a whole. Sorry, but I truly meant no threat/insult?

[Mahsa Tezani]

I APPROVE.

[Daniel006]

The way I see it, if I don't want others to pass judgment on me, what right do I have to pass judgment on anyone else?  What is right for me may not be right for anyone else, and I recognize that the inverse is true as well.

[JohnAlex]

Might've gotten the URL wrong. ftms instead of ftm.

Wait,I still can't get the link to work

[Nygeel]

With the correction to the URL: http://femmeftms.tumblr.com