top surgery scars - what do you tell people?

[Elijah3291]

I know a cis guy who lost a ton of weight after a gastric bypass, and he had a surgery (im guessing to remove extra skin) and he has 2 scars on his chest that look exactly like top surgery scars, and he gets people (who are trans knowledgeable) asking him if he is trans a lot.

[wheat thins are delicious]

I know a cis guy who lost a ton of weight after a gastric bypass, and he had a surgery (im guessing to remove extra skin) and he has 2 scars on his chest that look exactly like top surgery scars, and he gets people (who are trans knowledgeable) asking him if he is trans a lot.

wow, how rude of those people.

[geek]

I'm fat and after I finish losing weight and get the skin cut off, I'm just gonna say I was really fat and had skin cut off lol

[Natkat]

now I got keyhole so I have more or less no scars, but if people where to ask about my cheast and I woudlnt mention me being trans I would say I had lung problems and needed surgery, since it also sort of true,
binding for so long had my my lungs very bad, so I couldnt do exersices ex.

[wheat thins are delicious]

If you just say, 'I don't want to talk about it,' are people willing to leave you alone?  Generally speaking?

Most reasonable people will.  If you say it's personal or something similar about a certain thing a reasonable person would drop it.

[Felix]

If you just say, 'I don't want to talk about it,' are people willing to leave you alone?  Generally speaking?

I don't have top surgery scars but I have other visible things I don't like talking about, and yes that does usually work. People aren't (usually) trying to offend.

[Jude]

If by any chance I do get the surgery and go shirtless and is asked that question I would say "crazy ex" or "bar fight in 97"  even though I was only 5 at the time.   

bar fight in 97 actually killed me. i logged in just to reply to this. i was also only five in 97 and i will definitely be saying bar fight in 97 when i get top surgery

[Arch]

I was brutally attacked by a ->-bleeped-<-saurus rex (sorry no italics--the system isn't offering me that option today).

[King Malachite]

bar fight in 97 actually killed me. i logged in just to reply to this. i was also only five in 97 and i will definitely be saying bar fight in 97 when i get top surgery

*thumbs up* thats right!

Person:  "Malachite how did you get your scars"

Me: "Bar fight-97"

Person: "But you were too young to drink in 97"

*long pause*

Me:.....SHUT UP *walks away*

[Arch]

Person: "But you were too young to drink in 97"

I was drinking alcohol when I was six.

But not in a bar.

[Felix]

I was drinking alcohol when I was six.

But not in a bar.

I was in a barfight in 98, when I was a stupid gutterpunk and knew a lot of bartenders. But my god, drinking at six? I'm impressed that you aren't living under a bridge or something, Arch.

[Arch]

I was in a barfight in 98, when I was a stupid gutterpunk and knew a lot of bartenders. But my god, drinking at six? I'm impressed that you aren't living under a bridge or something, Arch.

It wasn't as bad as it sounds. I did it maybe eight or ten times in eighteen months. I knew that booze was forbidden for kids, but I didn't really understand what alcohol was.

My brother was no help, though. When I was thirteen, he introduced me to apricot brandy. It's pretty sticky stuff, but I always craved it after that. It was my drink of choice in college.

You should have seen the look on his face when I took that first swig--I took a big, healthy gulp and wasn't fazed at all. He was afraid I would choke on it, but apricot brandy isn't that strong. And maybe I had some good training from my earlier years.

[smittyFTM]

I have a scar on my face (nothing grotesque lol) and people used to constantly ask about it! STRANGERS would ask! I always thought that was a little rude.  Once I started getting tattooed (my arms are pretty heavily inked), people started noticing those instead.

I'm shocked no one has asked me yet about my top surgery scars; they're pretty skinny but still visible. I've thought about what I would say if asked and I haven't come up with a good answer. I've got no problem with my being Trans; I just don't feel like I want to tell a stranger, ya know?

I've recently started on a tattoo--a chestpiece--so soon my scars will be out of sight. Mmm ink......

[dalebert]

I really doubt a total stranger would ask. That would be terribly inappropriate for those scars or any scars. I imagine someone would have to be at least a little friendly with you before that space bubble should be broached.

[Nemo]

When I get mine, I'm just gonna say I had bad gynecomastia. It's technically true, after all ;P If I even get asked - I have been reassured by other trans-guys that it rarely happens.

But damn, some of these responses are awesome Made me LOL ^_^

[Sharky]

I'm just going to say I had breast cancer or lost a lot of weight.

I was also allowed to drink when I was a little kid. I have no substance abuse problems, but a lot of people in my family do. I also have a high tolerance to everything. It take a lot for me to just get a buzz going. Never get hangovers. 

[Cody Jensen]

I may just leave it at "Alligator wrestling in Australia. Good ol' days."

Actually yeaa, I think I'll just use this

[Noah G.]

Don't they only have crocodiles in Australia?

[Silas]

Haven't had surgery yet, but I am so using "bar fight in '97." XD I was two. I did technically have my first and last taste of alcohol a year later -- open containers near children = bad idea.

That or gyno. Gyno to be polite.

[Felix]

Haven't had surgery yet, but I am so using "bar fight in '97." XD I was two. I did technically have my first and last taste of alcohol a year later -- open containers near children = bad idea.

That or gyno. Gyno to be polite.

A friend of mine has told me a couple of times about how he came upon a container of vodka when he was little and thought it was water. Lol it made quite an impression on him.