Hey!
New here, but I gotta jump in somewhere! :-)
I've been pretty lucky with my voice. I basically started with the CandiFLA technique, and added a few things on my own. Definitely takes a little while; took me... maybe a year? It feels like physical changes took place in my throat, ones which can only come with time.
I second the suggestion of a diary. I started a video diary (just for *me*) to get my feelings out. But, it also was a great chance to practice my voice -- gave me something to actually say!
Another thing to point out is you should relax into this. You don't know what you'll sound like. You have a natural sound which won't be what you expect. Don't worry about pitch, in particular! My voice sounded 100% better when I stopped forcing it into a specific pitch. As it turns out, my voice is slightly higher than both my mother and my sister, and they are much smaller than I. If I had kept the pitch high, it would've sounded ridiculous.
Anyway, I made a little tutorial. Lots of the same stuff others cover. A few of my own additions. Maybe it'll help you... maybe not! :-P
Intro
http://db.tt/mPWJ5YgAFalsetto
http://db.tt/otUOzvAoNatural Pitch
http://db.tt/rzAHPob0Inflection
http://db.tt/NeI9X8CzLilt
http://db.tt/jaVgWOBbWrap up
http://db.tt/nKwm3X9E(oh, it's just audio, BTW)
Enjoy, and let me know if it helps! :-)
-anna