Sorry they hurt you Kate, and didnt seem to understand how you felt in the car. That was very insensitive and arrogant of them.
So the idea that social feminitiy (using social feminity to refer to both males and females socially feminine in interaction) is influenced by the (a) social pressure to perform or not perform a certain behavior "it has to be in a way that my coworkers will actually adopt, understand and use" and (b) their perceptions of whether performing that behavior would be easy or difficult sounds true in your two cases of "it all WORKS for us, and works very well", "why bother risking problems by upgrading " seems maybe true in your two cases
And the idea that social masculinity (using social masculinity to refer to both males and females socially masculine in interaction) is influenced only by attitude toward instrumentality. "my powermac is faster than your powermac" "but it's soooo slow!!! OUR cars have like 100 more horsepower, your car sucks!" ""Right, you SHOULD be jealous of OUR car, cuz it has (list of stats and stuff follows). I like, WASTED one of YOUR cars at a stoplight the other day" seems true in your two cases also.
Of course this article does say some males are feminine and some are androgynous, most are masculine.
It also says most women are androgynous, many are feminine, and some are masculine.
By androgynous in this aspect is referring to social attributes and interaction, not to gender. So its not saying most women are androgyne gender, just saying they interact using masculine and feminine ways, characteristics, and methods at work.
I find this facinating as an androgyne. I know several androgynes afraid to present any sort of cross gender characteristics at work (not talking about appearance, but even socially or instrumental wise). This at least mentions the advantages of doing so. From what they told me it is more of out of the fear that they will be discovered that they adhere to the social roles. I do think everyone could benefit by being socially androgynous in the sense of knowing the latest greatest instruments (even if they dont work as planned) and being a socially adept communicator that can be sympathetic and understanding.
Certainly having both skill sets makes work and promotions advantageous, rewarding, let you meet and know a lot of people, and help you feel good about yourself.