Would you date a Woman with or without Children?

[Princess of Hearts]

A woman with children would be too old for me, so this question is rather academic for me at the moment.   

[Kreuzfidel]

If I were still single then yes, I would date a woman with kids.  I want to be a father, so I would enjoy the opportunity.  To me, everyone has a past and it would have no bearing on my feelings for someone if they had an ex, debt or kids.  As long as she felt the same towards me as I did towards her then I'd be fine.

[Annah]

I would date someone with or without children if she/he had the qualities that i like. Honesty, integrity, intelligence, stability, and humor

[Keaira]

I did date a woman with 2 beautiful little girls 11 years ago. Then I married her. And we had a son together. I can't imagine life without them, though it's not been an easy road to travel. The hardest part so far though has been my transition. Her family is not happy because she has decided to stay with me. The kids are pretty supportive too. And I am truly grateful for that and I know how hard it is on them.

This is the only amazing thing to come out of not transitioning before marriage.

[Lee]

Yeah, but I would be nervous if things got serious just because I don't know if I would make a decent father at this point in my life.

[Gingertrap]

No, I personally don't like children and if I did have them, I would want them to be my own and much later in my life.

I want to enjoy this pert of my life without having a being that relies on me 100% of the time.

[Princess of Hearts]

I regret having phrased the question as I have done.  It sort of invites a 'yes' or 'no' response, when it is far more subtle and difficult a question.    It really comes down to the person who has to make the decision, and the women and children involved.      I might say 'no absolutely not', in one case, and say 'I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman and these children', in the next case.

[Sam-]

Yes I would. I love kids, and if I liked a woman then her having children wouldn't affect that at all. It would probably actually make me more interested in her, if she was a good mom that is. I wouldn't say women with children are too old for me, because I have plenty of friends between the ages of 19 and 23 that have kids, and I'm 20 myself.

[noeleena]

Hi,

we have 3 grown up adults 33 35 36 , & 9 grand kids.  i think im way passed wonting children now or Jos after 37 years together, & as to dateing now  dought it, tho we dont live to gether we still do things as just two women / friends  that have had a life to gether.

tho i love haveing one neat grand child with us at times & yes we do & go places to gether,

...noeleena...

[LordKAT]

Either

[Jennie]

Yes I would, if it was the right person.  I did in fact date a girl with 1 daughter, I ended up getting married and addopting her daughter, we have been married now for over 23 years and she is very supportive of my very slow transition, even my addopted daughter is very supportive.
It is not always good to just focus on the bagage, you might miss good people.
Aloha.

Jennie

[Chloe]

A woman with children would be too old for me

lol Would NEVER date another woman, let alone live with one as it kinda defeats the whole purpose of being one myself. All I want is my kids who need me as much as I need them!

[Annah]

lol Would NEVER date another woman, let alone live with one as it kinda defeats the whole purpose of being one myself.

Can you elaborate on this? From what you stated, you could not live with a woman because you would be confusing yourself because you are trying to be one.

Are did you mean something else?

[pretty]

Well I couldn't see myself dating a woman...

If I were single I would not date a man with kids because, honestly, idc if you think I have issues but I think having kids is gross and having kids with someone you're only weakly committed to is even more so.

So they could just go off and instead find someone with as much baggage as them. 

[Joelene9]

  Probably without, after seeing the effects with my friends who married those with children, at home or grown out of the nest.  These mothers have a bond with their children and this adds friction to those marriages.  These kids usually don't like the idea of mommy in bed with someone other than dear old daddy.  A lot of divorces amongst my friends are from these unions.  One friend's wife really gave her kids the riot act about interfering their marriage beforehand.  They have been married ~18 years now and my friend gets along with her kids.  At my age it is difficult to find a woman who wants a long-term relationship.   
  Joelene

[JessicaH]

I'd say that "ideally", no. Parenting is hard enough without step and blended families. In reality though, If I loved someone enough to marry them I would would do my best to make it work. It's definately  harder way to go but some people (and their kids) are worth it!

[Chloe]

Can you elaborate on this? From what you stated, you could not live with a woman because you would be confusing yourself because  . . .

because ? ? it confuses OTHERS I have never been so sure my entire life. I am not "gay", am not "lesbian" I identify as a woman who HAS two kids and likes / prefers MEN (lol and cats !)

[Julian]

I honestly couldn't see myself doing it. I decided early on never to have kids, and I don't think I could raise anyone's kids. However, I'm only 20, so this is mere speculation. I'm still never having kids, but in the distant future I don't think a partner having kids would be a deal-breaker.

[Constance]

@Happy Girl, by the time our second child was born, my wife was 21 and I was 22 years old. We started young.

Kids or a lack thereof would not be a deal killer for me, although I don't really relish the thought of starting over (my kids are 20 and 22).

To me, what's more important would be the woman's relationship with her kids. I would not want to interfere with such a relationship.

[Hikari]

Probably, But ideally not. Of course I am taken, so it is a purely academic thought.

I mean the thing is, a relationship with said woman would require some sort of relationship with her children, and the boundary lines are different in every parent-step parent-child relationship and I am not a person who enjoys such ambiguous relationships, this would be ever further ambiguous since it would be a lesbian relationship and society doesn't seem to know how to deal with lesbian families, which could lead  to pressure from the children's peers or authority figures as to which one of us is their "real" parent, etc.