Something happy and hopeful

[HarryP]

 Hi guys

I just wanted to share with you all that my mum has written this year's Christmas cards, and has used my male name in them for the first time! I am so happy and also so proud of her for doing that. She is also trying to get used to calling me Harry in normal conversation, which is again amazing!

I wanted to share this because my parents have struggled a lot since I came out to them, and haven't always been supportive in the way I would have liked. I know other guys on here have similar experiences, so I want you to know, if things are difficult, that it is possible for parents to come round. I hope that doesn't sound patronising, because I know my parents have been a lot more tolerant than other people's, but I wanted to share something hopeful anyway.

[AndrewL]

Thank you for sharing.

My brother has cut off contact with me since I transitioned, even today he responded to my holiday greeting through mom so there wouldn't be a trail that he had talked to me. Its good to see that with time things can change.

[Alicia]

I wanted to share this because my parents have struggled a lot since I came out to them, and haven't always been supportive in the way I would have liked. I know other guys on here have similar experiences, so I want you to know, if things are difficult, that it is possible for parents to come round. I hope that doesn't sound patronising, because I know my parents have been a lot more tolerant than other people's, but I wanted to share something hopeful anyway.

It's good that you only said "possible"', not that they eventually will. Even if the chances are worse than the chances of winning the lottery 10 times, it only ceases to be possible when they take their last breath.  Only be realistic and don't pretend they will simply because such is the outcome you desire.

[Devlyn]

Thanks for posting this, happy and hopeful are always welcome! Hugs, Tracey

[Felix]

That is soothing and good. Happy news is happy.

[Cindy]

Great news and a nice post.

People do accept but it takes time. I'm sorry if the pronouns and nouns get wonky. I think it can be difficult for older brothers to accept that their 'sister' is male. Guys are usually brought up to be respectful and 'gentle and look out' for their sister. Otherwise Mum or Dad beat the crap out of them. They also get the male jealousy stuff, 'your not good enough to go out with my sister'. And then it's all turned on its head. I have a brother who was my sister

Hang in

Cindy

[Silas]

That's amazingly lovely. ♥ I hope she gets used to it.

My mom's sort of roundabout been able to refer to me as male. "Your sister went out to get a birthday present for some boy. Can't for the life of me think who..~" and "Ugh, those guys being over all the time is like having extra sons." My littlest sister even corrects people's pronoun usage and for some reason calls me "Boy <given name>".

[HarryP]

Hello everyone

Thanks for all the lovely comments on my post, and sorry I haven't responded sooner - I can't get on Susans in work and I use the computer so much there that sometimes when I get home I forget to check my home computer!

Harry x