As transgender people, our bodies are not sacred anymore!

[MsDazzler]

Lately... I have been getting annoyed and irritated by people asking nosy questions about my body as if I lost all my rights to my privacy once I tell them I am on hormones or transgender.

"Will you grow breasts?"
"If you grow them, can I touch them?"
"Will you have surgery? Won't it hurt?"
"But how can you think of chopping your dick off?"

Ad nauseaum

[Alainaluvsu]

I wish some of the ppl I've told would show half that interest.. my brother would rather forget I was...

He's overseas for at least a year... hopefully when he comes back he'll have no choice but to forget that I was his "brother"...

[Jaime]

Anytime someone has asked me a personal question like that, I tell them it really isn't something I care to answer. Unless it was my sister or back when my dad was alive and had a few questions. But for the most part, people are too scaredy cat to ask me, they instead ask someone else about me instead. That's what I really hate.

[kelly_aus]

I take great delight in answering such questions.. I make sure to include every possible little detail I can..  Give them enough detail and they stop asking questions..

[eli77]

I have no problem answering questions. But not many people know I'm trans. And those that do, I like.

Also, it's hilarious watching guys blanch when I talk about genital surgery. Don't ask questions if you don't want to know, mate.

[Joelene9]

I take great delight in answering such questions.. I make sure to include every possible little detail I can..  Give them enough detail and they stop asking questions..

Same here! 
  Joelene

[Sophie]

Very few people know I'm trans or that I'm starting hormones so the few questions I get from close family or from the one friend that knows is very few. My mother while somewhat accepting doesn't wish to hear any details, and my father wishes to hear even less.

I have a wife and a friend who have all kinds of questions though. Just last week my friend ask me what would a MTF that has transitioned early in life look like when they were 80....I answered ummm... an 80 year old woman hopefully. Who says there's no such thing as a dumb question 

So to have someone show interest is nice. I suppose if everyday I were answering questions I would become annoyed though. But like I said no danger in that happening.

[Jennifer.L]

@MsDazzler,  Mostly I try to decide if the person is really trying to work with me and understand me.  If they are I'll jsut answer them.  "I'm not 'chopping off my dick' I'm getting ride of a lumpy growth so I can be the person I am inside.  It's more like having a wart cut off and getting a skin graft.  It's jsut not part of who I am"

They won't get what I'm saying but they will normally be happy with it.   To be fair everyone but my brother is very understanding.  When I came out I got a course of "ya we kind of already knew"  or "Well I'm not suprissed, there where alot of signs"

@kelly_aus
You know if they are really interested in knowing I love to talk about it.       One gay friend  (no wounder I was never conceren by gay men hitting on my alter ego) who ask if I was "like gay or strait or what?"  So I told him I'm a lesbian whos strait-courious.  that made his eyes cross xD

@sophia    I'm sorry they arn't there for you honey.  I wish they could jsut try to understand.

[Felix]

Sorry to intrude on an mtf thread, but my daughter asked me six months ago if I was going to get my vagina cut off, and I still haven't stopped laughing about it.

Yes people speak without thinking. Sometimes it's funny, but it can get really old.

[Rabbit]

I really don't mind too much when people ask me questions....

Questions mean they are curious...

Curious means they are trying to learn...

Trying to learn means they haven't made a firm judgement about us from the start ...



I feel that if they are asking questions, then it is my chance to get them to see that being trans isn't about all the crazy stereotypes out there. I can show them that I am actually pretty normal and nice. I can help them see that being trans is actually a pretty cool thing...

And really, I totally understand their curiosity. When I first started exploring things, I was the same way! I asked other trans people all sorts of personal questions.. I have watched all sorts of trans video blogs.... I was super curious about this world and all the things that were possible (like just the training to change our voice is seriously cool).

[Padma]

Occasionally I'll point out politely that it's a pretty personal question they're asking, and they generally accept that they're being over-personal. And even more occasionally, when someone's being more insensitive/offensive, I'll say something like "Sure - and do you mind if I ask you all about your cock and sex life in front of your friends, then?"

But mostly I'm happy to inform, especially in public places , because it counters the cloud of misinformation that fills most people's brains.

[0451]

Yesterday my brother asked me, "how are your tits doin?"  It was in jest (I think).  I was like "EXCUSE ME!?"   I can't say I was offended, because we always make off color jokes to each other.  But it was a bit embarrassing.

I advise you to deal with rude questions with sarcasm:

"Will you grow breasts?"

No, I'll grow artichokes.

"If you grow them, can I touch them?"

Sorry, they bite.

"Will you have surgery? Won't it hurt?"

Yes, but I'm keeping the scrotum to make a wallet.  No, of course it won't hurt.

"But how can you think of chopping your dick off?"

So I can strike you with it.

[MsDazzler]

Yesterday my brother asked me, "how are your tits doin?"  It was in jest (I think).  I was like "EXCUSE ME!?"   I can't say I was offended, because we always make off color jokes to each other.  But it was a bit embarrassing.

I advise you to deal with rude questions with sarcasm:
No, I'll grow artichokes.
Sorry, they bite.
Yes, but I'm keeping the scrotum to make a wallet.  No, of course it won't hurt.
So I can strike you with it.

LOL they are hiliarious responses!

Seriously, though... it is like people feel like they can ask those questions to transgender people. They don't ask natal females if they will grow tits, or natal males if they have a penis! Our bodies are literally on display now