Who else used to be a gay man before transitioning?

[Forever21Chic]

 
   I was a bisexual man before transition so i was attracted to both sex's but to be honest i've always liked men better. Some of the women i dated said they were attracted to my feminine side yet others said they didn't like it cuz they felt like they had to compete with me over who's the girl in the relationship. I enjoyed being in a relationship with a man more but didn't identify as gay man, i felt like a chick and i would pretend i was his girlfriend even though i knew that's not how he saw me. 

[jessicas37]

I have recieved FAR MORE support from the straight community then the gay community.Gay men inparticular dont understand or want to understand. Most lesbians have been noresponive. While EVERY cisgirl is loving and supportive.....Good ol redneck southern indiana i guess.

[Alainaluvsu]

I'm only into men but I'm pre transition. A lot of people I associate with right now treat me pretty much like a straight female even though I present as male.

EDIT: Mind you, a straight female until it comes to who is asking me out or flirting with me, then they treat me like a gay guy.

[MsDazzler]

I have recieved FAR MORE support from the straight community then the gay community.Gay men inparticular dont understand or want to understand. Most lesbians have been noresponive. While EVERY cisgirl is loving and supportive.....Good ol redneck southern indiana i guess.

Really? I find that incredible to believe. Usually the assaults and violence on trangsender people come from heterosexual people.

[eli77]

So far as I can see.. Only Masha and I were gay men before we transitioned... It looks like everyone else was a heterosexual man and lots of you folks have children as well.

I don't think I was much of anything. I've always been attracted to girls, but I was 24 the first time I was with anyone and she'd known I was a trans girl for over a year. That's the only relationship I've had, and the only one I will have till I'm post-op.

I don't really get why people obsess over drawing connections between sexuality and transsexualism.

[jessicas37]

Really? I find that incredible to believe. Usually the assaults and violence on trangsender people come from heterosexual people.

CISFemales are curious and helpful and often give me advise. I have never in 12 months had an issue..No of course i get the 14-20yr old little girl snickers now and then but i ignore those. And if any men have outed me then i am not aware of it. Gay males constantly refer to me as a crossdresser and that is by my drag queen friends. Every gay man i have talked with is either like "Why would you want to do that to yourself?" or "Cant' you just live as a crossdresser why do you need surgery?". Lesbians are not mean but let it be known that they are not interested in me.

[Felix]

I don't want to take sides here, but I can say that I get as much confusion and rejection from the gay community as from heteros, and it hurts more (to me) coming from queers.

[MsDazzler]

That is true... some gay people are no better than heterosexual people in discriminating and rejecting transgender people, but they usually will not assault or harm you.

That is one of the few reasons I prefer going to gay bars/clubs than straight ones, because I do not have to worry about potential assault if a straight man hits on me and finds out that I am transgender., especially if he is drunk.

However, I have had few pretty wild one-night stands from straight bars, but I consider myself very fortunate that they did not harm me when I revealed my "->-bleeped-<- surprise".

[Shana A]

I identified as a gay male for a while, then as bi as I'd fallen in love with a woman... until eventually realizing that I was actually trans. Interestingly, my gay male lovers seemed to know about me not being male long before I figured it out.

Z

[Felix]

I identified as a gay male for a while, then as bi as I'd fallen in love with a woman... until eventually realizing that I was actually trans. Interestingly, my gay male lovers seemed to know about me not being male long before I figured it out.

Z

I feel like such an idiot when I think back to how many people knew I was male before I did. Or tbh after I did and before I did again. I spent some time in denial.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

Can we get a DUH lmao


Really now?

i guess some people equate changing gender to morphing into an entirely different human being. it's really a good thing that you look the same. that just means you were more female looking from the start. it was the same for me, but the only problem is, people can remember me and judge me. so, if someone wants to look entirely different, try "face off."

[Felix]

i guess some people equate changing gender to morphing into an entirely different human being. it's really a good thing that you look the same. that just means you were more female looking from the start. it was the same for me, but the only problem is, people can remember me and judge me. so, if someone wants to look entirely different, try "face off."

I look the same. People who knew me as female are all what the hell you didn't change anything at all, and people who didn't know me as female are all congratulations on transforming yourself, you don't look at all like a girl. Lol.

I agree, looking similar to yourself in your former presentation-gender is a good thing.

[Shana A]

I feel like such an idiot when I think back to how many people knew I was male before I did. Or tbh after I did and before I did again. I spent some time in denial.

Ah yes, denial... the river is deep and the river is wide!

Z

[Jaime]

Never was gay, but funny story, when I told my dad that I was trans, he was like "whew, I thought you were going to tell me you were gay there for a minute."    He was actually relieved that I was trans instead.   

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

I look the same. People who knew me as female are all what the hell you didn't change anything at all, and people who didn't know me as female are all congratulations on transforming yourself, you don't look at all like a girl. Lol.

I agree, looking similar to yourself in your former presentation-gender is a good thing.

people hold bias when it comes to gender. like how i used to get called "handsome," but i knew people were just trying to make me feel "better" about myself.

[Annah]

So far as I can see.. Only Masha and I were gay men before we transitioned... It looks like everyone else was a heterosexual man and lots of you folks have children as well.

I was pansexual before my transition. Was faithful and married to a female with three children. After my transition, I am still pansexual.

[Mahsa Tezani]

i guess some people equate changing gender to morphing into an entirely different human being. it's really a good thing that you look the same. that just means you were more female looking from the start. it was the same for me, but the only problem is, people can remember me and judge me. so, if someone wants to look entirely different, try "face off."

It was just an attempt at a mean comment from Jen61... Don't read completely into it.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

i was basically asexual before transition. i had no gf/bf, and was mostly disinterested in romance, but i transitioned at 18, so it's not the end of the world.

[xxUltraModLadyxx]

It was just an attempt at a mean comment from Jen61... Don't read completely into it.

i understand. it's happened multiple times before.

[Mahsa Tezani]

i understand. it's happened multiple times before.

Well her stuff is more hilarious than bothering. Like replying to her own quotes which were suppose to burn me, never posting pics of herself, etc....

Just let people be people.