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How open minded is this forum?

Started by MsDazzler, November 29, 2011, 09:11:46 PM

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annette

Quote from: cynthialee on November 30, 2011, 09:57:03 AM
Keep in mind the audiance here....

How many of us are comfortable enough with their bodies to have sex?
Out of the few who are, how likely is it that they would want to talk about these topics around women who are very much traumatised because of their bodies?

Sex is a complicated minefield for most of us.

Sorry to read, coz it can give a lot of joy and connectedness together with your partner.
I hope things will change one day.
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Julie Marie

Since you mentioned sex in reference to being open minded...

Many here are from the US.  The US has some pretty strong Puritan and Victorian beliefs in its history, a lot of which is still here today, we just don't openly admit it.  Unlike some other countries, we are taught sex is shameful, embarrassing, wrong, evil, of the Devil, un-God-like and a host of other negative messages one hears growing up in this country.

But we all are human and everyone knows no matter what messages you send, people are still going to have sex.  So we allow for it between one man and one woman, in the bedroom, behind closed doors and only after they are married.  That's okay.  No one will give you crap about that.  Just make sure you don't talk about it!  And don't ever tell anyone you're doin' it every day.  People won't like you.  But if it produces children, you are blessed!  After all, that's why God created sex, right?

So whatever lack of open-mindedness you perceive on this forum is most likely because it's so prevalent in this country.  And we are the United States of America and we are used to getting our way.

Now let's put all this talk about sex back where it belongs, in the bedroom, behind closed doors...

"Honey!  We're out of K-Y again!"
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.
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eli77

I'm totally fine with other people talking about it, but it's not really something I can talk about myself. I have extremely limited experience anyway. I was a virgin till 24, I've only had one intimate partner, and I have zero interest in having sex again till after my surgery. What is there to talk about?
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cynthialee

Quote from: annette on November 30, 2011, 11:21:22 AM
Sorry to read, coz it can give a lot of joy and connectedness together with your partner.
I hope things will change one day.
Actually my sex life with my partner is fine and dandy.

It is however a potential mine field with both partners sufering from some degree of physical dysphoria...
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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Jen-Jen

I don't know about this forum but I am pretty open minded!
Don't judge a book by its cover! My lifes been like a country song! True love, amazing grace, severe heartbreak, buckles, boots n spurs! I 've been thrown off the bull a couple times, I keep getting up and dusting myself off! Can't give up on my happily ever after!
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MsDazzler

Quote from: Sarah Louise on November 30, 2011, 09:39:22 AM
There have been "sexual" discussions many times.  We insist they stay within the Sexuality Section.  We also will monitor how graphic they get.  I think we are open minded.  I know that I for one have not been celebate before or after my transition.

I feel stupid, but how do I find the sexuality section and/or "just us" section?  :embarrassed:
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Jennifer

Go to the home page and scroll down just a little and you will see it.

Jennifer
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AmySmiles

Quote from: Sarah7 on November 30, 2011, 11:51:20 AM
I'm totally fine with other people talking about it, but it's not really something I can talk about myself. I have extremely limited experience anyway. I was a virgin till 24, I've only had one intimate partner, and I have zero interest in having sex again till after my surgery. What is there to talk about?

Ditto this.  I think even the age part is the same, but I might have been 23.  Either way, I have zero interest in it before GRS unless I happen to find the right person - and even then, I'd rather cuddle or do things not involving certain parts.
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MsDazzler

Thanks, guys... I managed to find the appropriate forums. :)

Even as the hormones have sort of dwindled my sex drive on a biological level, on the flip of the same coin... I feel it going up mentally... because I am growing happier with myself and getting real breasts have enchanced my perception of my sexiness...

Does it make sense?
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Akashiya Moka

I feel the same way as Amy and Sarah. If people want to talk about "odd" sexual things, I don't care; however, I reserve the right to make jokes (and to blush).
"Another Life Saved By Girl-On-Girl Action." ~House

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"Black as the Devil, Hot as Hell, Pure as an Angel, Sweet as Love."
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Julian

I think you really have to talk to the right people here for the forum to seem open-minded. *shrug*
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Annah

sex

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm lol

Sex is like coffee to me. It makes the day more manageable and it completes the day :)
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fionabell

This forum is closed minded as any group of people but sexually, it's fairly open minded.
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: tekla on November 30, 2011, 09:55:37 AM
masturbating with the butter from movie theaters

And I don't know if it was true or not, but you bet I'm not eating anymore popcorn at the movies.

Wasn't that an SNL sketch?
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justmeinoz

I am so traumatised I may never eat popcorn again.   :laugh:  And if the implications of all these posts don't show we have a sense of humour and are open minded I don't know what would.  ;)

Karen.
"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: fionabell on December 21, 2011, 01:06:30 AM
This forum is closed minded as any group of people but sexually, it's fairly open minded.

I've learned you can't be in contact with your past, while embracing your future and being grounded in reality while enjoying it all.

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