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Why won't many of you show your faces?

Started by Mahsa Tezani, December 17, 2011, 03:13:22 AM

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Mahsa Tezani

I figure women are all about vanity(Oh wait, that was just me)... But seriously.

Let's see some faces.

Why won't some members show us their faces?
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Forever21Chic

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 17, 2011, 03:13:22 AM
I figure women are all about vanity(Oh wait, that was just me)... But seriously.

Let's see some faces.

Why won't some members show us their faces?

Do i have to?  :laugh:

No seriously i really don't think i have anything to prove to anyone here.

I'm quite confident in my appearance and my voice but there is always room for improvement, at least that's my philosophy.  :P
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Rukia87xo on December 17, 2011, 03:20:05 AM
Do i have to?  :laugh:

No seriously i really don't think i have anything to prove to anyone here.

I'm quite confident in my appearance and my voice but there is always room for improvement, at least that's my philosophy.  :P

+1
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Kelly J. P.

 I show mine. I'm not always happy about it, but it is presented in an attempt to be honest, open, and trusting towards the other board members. I feel really androgynous - a fact that I'm having a conflict with presently. Androgyny is fun, and I can make an attractive young woman. But I'm frightened by the fact that I can be an attractive young guy, too.

Perhaps it is the same with the others. Wearing an avatar usually requires some self-esteem, and to someone that hates their appearance from the core of their soul, putting a picture of oneself to their profile would be difficult to do. It's like how I was with my voice... when I had to use my male voice, I despised talking, and cringed every time I was made to. I have since put an end to this, but I will never forget how that felt.

... I don't believe that I needed to say any of that, but it feels good to say.
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Nurse With Wound

When I am ready, I still suffer from bad drag queen syndrome when using the make ups.

Also, paranoia, I'd probably do it if the picture threads were in the private area since I'm always popping pics up in some IRCs I frequent.
Scaring away, my ghosts.
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Akashiya Moka

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on December 17, 2011, 03:13:22 AM
I figure women are all about vanity(Oh wait, that was just me)... But seriously.

Let's see some faces.

Why won't some members show us their faces?

You mean like boy pics? I would post childhood stuff if anyone wanted me to (even though I would've once burned them all if not for my mom), but I think I'm so vain/neurotic that I wouldn't post a current pic 'cause I'm not satisfied yet. :P ~I'm pretty warped mentally/emotionally in a variety of ways; one example: I am an insane perfectionist. Insane.
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Joandelynn

Showing your face on a transgender forum is really not a smart thing to do if you don't want to be out, especially with developments like tineye.com, pictriev.com, etc. Face recognition software is getting better by the day, and it could easily get you outed.

And like Rukia87xo says, we've got nothing to prove. Everyday I step out of that door and enter a world full of people to get all the validation that I want (and sometimes not ;-). So I really don't need a transgender forum for that.

Also, it's well known that some of the visitors of forums like these are stalkers and ->-bleeped-<-s. One more reason to protect your privacy.
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Forever21Chic

Quote from: Joandelynn on December 17, 2011, 04:20:30 AM
Showing your face on a transgender forum is really not a smart thing to do if you don't want to be out, especially with developments like tineye.com, pictriev.com, etc. Face recognition software is getting better by the day, and it could easily get you outed.

And like Rukia87xo says, we've got nothing to prove. Everyday I step out of that door and enter a world full of people to get all the validation that I want (and sometimes not ;-). So I really don't need a transgender forum for that.

Also, it's well known that some of the visitors of forums like these are stalkers and ->-bleeped-<-s. One more reason to protect your privacy.

  Yeah i'm actually trying to go stealth so showing my face on a transgender forum isn't the smartest thing to do.  :D

  I applaud those that openly take part in the transgender community.  :eusa_clap:
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lilacwoman

how do we insert images in posts?

bit annoying to keep altering avatar.

clicking Insert Image icon above just brings the ''   but what do I do after selecting one of pix on my comp?
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Nurse With Wound

Quote from: lilacwoman on December 17, 2011, 05:25:35 AM
how do we insert images in posts?

bit annoying to keep altering avatar.

clicking Insert Image icon above just brings the ''   but what do I do after selecting one of pix on my comp?
Upload your image to an external image hosting website and then: <img>image url goes here</img> for example; <img>https://ssl.stealinyourkeys.info.cn/nakedgirls.exe</img>

But replace the < >'s with [ ]'s
Scaring away, my ghosts.
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Joeyboo~ :3

Everyone knows what i look like!
no one will comment on my damn photos though.
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Rabbit

A lot of people are going to be extremely sensitive about how they look.... it is just how our community goes. Those before transition or even during it are often trapped in a sittuation where they dislike how they look (which is, well, why we do the entire transition thing). After transition you will probably find more people who have found at least some amount of happyness with how they look (even if it is just because they can look back and see they have moved away from what they disliked before).

I was extremely sensitive about how I looked before (and still am in certain instances). But lately I have been getting more people confused and thinking I am female online... which is a ton of fun. Even if I still look male, I think I have moved far enough away from where I was before that I can relax a bit and just play around with messing with people :P Also, I have been getting some really positive feedback from those around me and recently started dating... which definitely helps boost confidence.

So, basically, it all just depends where people are in their transition and feelings towards how they look. Being uncomfortable with how we look at one point or another is something all of us go through.

And, of course, some are kind of paranoid of being "outted" ((for those in stealth, even visiting forums like these is probably causing some amount of anxiety).

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niamh

Quote from: JoeyD on December 17, 2011, 08:02:12 AM
Everyone knows what i look like!
no one will comment on my damn photos though.

You look like a very cute tomboy from what I can see of the pictures you have posted.

Why I don't post a picture? I am not looking to be commented on by people I don't know. Besides, I am not out and I work in a job where I deal with a load of tech savey teenagers who would only be too happy to spread some gossip. I don't think my bosses would be too happy...Finally, I know I don't look pretty and I feel inadequate compared to the rest of ye.
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shortNsweet

I do plan to post pictures eventually. But that has to be when I have the confidence and can stand to look at myself.
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Dahlia

Because my facepics were stolen once by someone who posted and  used them as a wannabe TS pretending to be me on a very, very gross '->-bleeped-<- datingsite'.

That won't happen ever again because I won't post pictures of me anywere anymore.
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MsDazzler

I think Masha wants to see what I look like, lol.

On a separate note, her avatar pic is gone now, heh
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cynthialee

My pics are in the various picture threads.

I ussed to use my own pic as an avatar but that got boring.
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LivingInGrey

I make it a point not to show my real life on the Internet as much as possible. There are only a few situations where I use anything like my real name or an image of myself and thats only on trusted private websites where I know the people who use those sites will respect privacy. I also do not crosslink user accounts for different groups (except for rare occasions). Here I am LivingInGrey, other general internet uses I use a different username.

I've even turned down jobs or quit jobs because those people wanted to put my image on their websites.

It's just the way I am.
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: MsDazzler on December 17, 2011, 10:24:07 AM
I think Masha wants to see what I look like, lol.

On a separate note, her avatar pic is gone now, heh

Actually the two members who smite me more than anything are faceless. 90% of the smites come from two members and nothing more.

But I am advertising drag race, since I am rehearsing for it for 2013 I believe.
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xxUltraModLadyxx

Quote from: JoeyD on December 17, 2011, 08:02:12 AM
Everyone knows what i look like!
no one will comment on my damn photos though.

yeah, same with me. people here don't comment on your photos unless you look like a "normal woman." i don't really need the compliments though. as long as i like it, that's the only person i need to impress.
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