Why won't many of you show your faces?

[Nurse With Wound]

Mahsa wants to see my oicture to insult me, she is burning with the desire for revenge. She posted a picture of herself and a man. I said it looked like a 50 something and a 40 something couple. She took great insult on it, and well, things have gone ... I placed a public apology to which she did not respond, and yes, we continue to exchange kisses.

As much as I disagree with most of Masha's views you seem to be baiting for drama here just for the sake of it. If you disagree with something someone says you should respond to the thread they posted it in giving critical, constructive reply which can be continued as a normal conversation, sure you'll never agree but it's better than this pointless drama baiting in other threads. 

[Heavenlywind]

Everyone has their owns reason as to why they won't show their face. Not sure why people bother to get aggressive to others about it. As for why I don't post my picture is because I hate getting my picture taken, even by myself. I do have a few pictures on facebook and mixi. Pictures don't really mean too much to me either for the most part. How you present yourself is more important when your out and about. If you really want to see how others look like, maybe you can ask nicely. If they say no just respect their wishes and be on your merry way.

[tekla]

I tend to take the pix, as a result, there are not all that many of me, but I had to pose for this one.  I was setting up the exhibit and speaking venue at the Jumping Frog site in Calaveras up in the foothills.  That's Phil's first Alembic bass (in stereo), and behind me is the original stage banner from Mountain Aire in 87.  I don't look like much of anything.  This is day 3 or 4 of 8, it had rained twice, been broiling hot, and I'm sleeping in a 4-H barn - when we actually went to sleep, which was rare.  At any rate, one of the stickers is of course the red/white/blue skull with the 13 pointed lighting bolt one of the best known rock logos (otherwise known as 'skull->-bleeped-<-,' or a 'stealie' in polite company (after 'Steal Your Face').  The other sticker is from Apollo 8.

The most interesting man in the world

Backstage in the green room (yes, I know it's blue, it's just an expression) with some LA singer.  I forget who.  I'm sure she's forgot about me too.  Awww.
StarTime


I had some shots of me at the Folsom Street Fair, a few of them might be postable (it's not a family friendly event) - I'll see if I can dig them up.


burning with the desire for revenge
Wow, exaggerate much?  I didn't know she was burning, last time I past her she was still just smoldering.

[Annah]

I have been stealth for almost 2 years now and I have my face as my avatar and I have never been outed by anyone yet. Now, I am not saying it's impossible to be outed my placing a pic of yourself here; but from my experience it has never happened. And if it does happen, I could care less. I am who I am.

Also, if someone says "I saw your pic on a trans site...omg you're trans!" Then I would reply, what were you doing on a trans site.

[Mahsa Tezani]

Also, if someone says "I saw your pic on a trans site...omg you're trans!" Then I would reply, what were you doing on a trans site.

I got asked by some gay men why I was on A4A once...then I explained my past and they were like, "You're a girl. It's a site for gay men." I was using the site with my old photos and showing up to the "date" as a girl. I revived my account twice in my transition, namely for IRL prankin.

Do people even know this site exists?

[SandraJane]

People who don't show their face on this forum don't deserve to responded to. This the internet. There's a lot of people on internet forums who aren't who they say they are.

I wouldn't talk to someone who had a burka on in RL so why should I respond here?

It's not that I would be rude or have some shunning policy against a burka wearer, I just physically wouldn't be capable of continuing a conversation.

As a sign of good faith, show your face. Especially if you are opinionated or argumentative. It's not illegal to be transgender. So there is zero excuse.
If this was a terrorist cell I'd understand, but it isn't.

Fionabell, there is no requirement in the TOS to post an actual likeness of yourself. How do we know the avatar pic is actually you? Yes, it is the Internet and not everyone tells the truth. If you personally don't want to respond to someone that doesn't post a picture of themselves, that's your call, but not to dictate to anyone else here on Susan's.

There are different reasons why people don't  post a avatar picture of themselves...stealth, working on their appearance, not ready, etc.

Please respect that. Me...I'm not ready to post my pic yet, one day I will, when I'm ready.

[Annah]

i never noticed this until now, but the girl in your avatar pic....i have that same exact skirt. Bought it on clearence for 14 dollars at hot topic. The front is a purple pleat and the sides are pleated but the back is just a basic black aline skirt. Fun skirt but never really cared for the front half pleated and the back half straight.

But anyways...here's a better view of it:

[fionabell]

well ok i place it but anyway it's better my avatar, so i guess I am ok with the acts of courage for today...



no sign of Tsness whatsoever as you see, but much much beard

I cam see girl in your eyes hon. You are the real article.

Eyebrows hon. start plucking them gradually so no one can notice.

a start beard lasering!

[SandraJane]

I cam see girl in your eyes hon. You are the real article.

Eyebrows hon. start plucking them gradually so no one can notice.

a start beard lasering!

Fionabell,

Keep your opinions to yourself...it is not up to you who posts on this site and who does not.

2. Any attempts to stage protests, dispute the site policy, the TOS/rules, or actions of the staff; in the public areas of this site will not be tolerated and will result in your removal. If you have issues I suggest you contact susan@susans.org and not bring your issues into the public spaces on this website. For the proper way to raise issues see term #20 below.

6. You should not give out personal information which may lead to your being identified, or contacted in person, by email or other means. If you chose to do so, then you also accept the accompanying risks. Aliases and the use of alternate email addresses are encouraged.

10. Bashing or flaming of any individuals or groups is not acceptable behavior on this web site and will not be tolerated in the slightest for any reason.  This includes but is not limited to:

    Advocating the separation or exclusion of one or more group from under the Transgender umbrella term
    Suggesting or claiming that one segment or sub-segment of our community is more legitimate, deserving, or more real than any others

[Annah]

How do we know the avatar pic is actually you?

LOL!

Anyways back to topic, I played around on pictrieve.com with this pic:


The results say I am a 23 year old female (96% female). Considering I am a 38 year old trans, I am happy with the results lol

[Amazon D]

I learned about 3 yrs after finishing transitioning beauty is from within.. some of you know this already and haven't even started transitioning. You are Blessed for your insight and have that natural beauty within that can't be bought for no amount of $$$

[Siobhan]

LOL!

Anyways back to topic, I played around on pictrieve.com with this pic:


The results say I am a 23 year old female (96% female). Considering I am a 38 year old trans, I am happy with the results lol

You look great in that pic, actually would say its a nicer pic than your current avatar. Colours seem much 'warmer'.

[Joandelynn]

Also, if someone says "I saw your pic on a trans site...omg you're trans!" Then I would reply, what were you doing on a trans site.

They weren't, they were on an image search engine that uses face recognition to find matching images. I know the technology isn't very good yet, but it will get better.

And if Fionabell only wants to talk to people that show their face, then I suppose I have to go looking for some random pictures from the internet to use as an avatar. I have actually already seen this on other forums where people posted images of themselves that later turned out to be not really them.

[madirocks]

I haven't transitioned yet. I probably will post a couple of photos when I do, elsewhere on Susuan's, but I doubt any rl photos will be an avatar. I like my avatar to be more of a representation of my interests, over how I look.

[lilacwoman]

I was told the other day that some picciecollector has got a pix of mine - some 'friend' swapped me? - and posted it on a website.
I don't mind as pic shows me slim and fashionable dressed while the picciecollector is potbellied CD slob...he probly has a magic mirror.

[Jen61]

get over that, it was 2 months ago and I could give a rats what you think.

Replay # 19 from Mahsa

Actually the two members who smite me more than anything are faceless. 90% of the smites come from two members and nothing more.

Hummm! How many times I have smite you ?

[Dana_H]

Some of us cannot afford to be outed in a facial recognition search. Imagine working around dozens of physically aggressive types who are already known to be transphobic and one of them decides to do a search on your face just to see if anything "amusing" turns up (which has happened)...and they find your before/after photos on Susan's!   

When I can get a better (more normal) job than my current one, (or when my little home business becomes self-supporting and can pay me a salary) I'll *consider* posting my face. Not until then. That's also why I tend to be vague or evasive on here about certain aspects of my personal life.

Besides, how can you really be sure that the real photos on here actually belong to the person who posts them?
I've seen someone who uses Jennifer Aniston as an avatar, but I somehow suspect that person isn't really her.
(If it is really her, that's fine too. )

Different people have different reasons for wanting or not wanting to post their photos on here. It shouldn't need to be justified either way.

[tekla]

I can assure you that that is me in those photos.  Or I would have picked someone much better looking.

[V M]

I can assure you that that is me in those photos.

You must submit at least two butt hair samples for verification 

[fionabell]

Fionabell,

Keep your opinions to yourself...it is not up to you who posts on this site and who does not.

I have not tried to dictate who should post here and who should not, least of all in the post you are replying to.

I merely complemented and encouraged her towards transition. Are you insinuating that I was being non-geniune?

2. Any attempts to stage protests, dispute the site policy, the TOS/rules, or actions of the staff; in the public areas of this site will not be tolerated and will result in your removal. If you have issues I suggest you contact susan@susans.org and not bring your issues into the public spaces on this website. For the proper way to raise issues see term #20 below.

you've just made it public

6. You should not give out personal information which may lead to your being identified, or contacted in person, by email or other means. If you chose to do so, then you also accept the accompanying risks. Aliases and the use of alternate email addresses are encouraged.

10. Bashing or flaming of any individuals or groups is not acceptable behavior on this web site and will not be tolerated in the slightest for any reason.  This includes but is not limited to:

    Advocating the separation or exclusion of one or more group from under the Transgender umbrella term
    Suggesting or claiming that one segment or sub-segment of our community is more legitimate, deserving, or more real than any others [/i]

The only person who's been excluded is me. Everybody else states their opinion but you've just excluded me from that.

I suppose they'll ban me now. Good bye everone