Hello all,
Although I am new to this site, I have been all over the Web for years now, looking for answers, asking questions, and trying to be comfortable with who I am.
I am a 40-something crossdresser, and have been doing this since my early teens. My wife (aka, my best friend, life partner, etc.) has known since early in our marriage more than 15yrs ago...shoulda told her before we got married, shoulda been more considerate, shoulda had more answers to all of her questions, yaadaa yaadaa yaadaa. We have had many ups and downs over the years, but I think we have finally reached the comfort zone together. Best thing I did was to make the decision not to take my dressing up too seriously--it's a part of my life that will never go away, but as long as I don't make a big deal about it, my wife doesn't, either.
I spend most of my days in panties, dress up more completely when I have the house to myself (or when I am away on business trips), and I occasionally dabble with makeup. Doubt if I could pass, nor do I have a desire to--other than to see if I could! One day I will break out the camera and play with photoshop, but that's the only way I will ever be pretty!
My wife knows when I am dressed, but prefers not to participate--she knows that when I am dressed I am a little more amorous and attentive, but still she prefers cuddling with a man, not a woman. Disappointing? Sometimes, but it is one of the many compromises we make for each other. More than once she has told me that it is my femme qualities that make me such a good dad, husband, lover, etc. and believe me, hearing that goes a long way.
I will be here from time to time, reading your posts, offering up my opinions and insights when appropriate...just don't look for me on the street or in the mall, 'cause Dayna doesn't go there!
C'ya!
-d
