How do your social life rate from being 1-10?

[MsDazzler]

There seem to be a lot of transgender people who feel deeply unhappy about their assigned gender identities, inability to transition, inability to pass, and so on and on. To me, that implies they just sit around at home, mope, whine on the boards, etc. Sounds like their social lives are down the toilet.

And there is this stereotype that trans people are depressed, spend their time seeing shrinks, and never see the daylight. What social life, right?

Then there is this stereotype that trans people are prostitutes, out at night all the time, their mouths and ortifices popular (for a charge, of course, lol) Wow, what a social life, right!?

Am I wrong?

Tell me how your social life rate from being 1-10?

1- Loser and stays home 24/7 

2- Loser, but do get out of the house occasionally even if it is just for a grocery run 

3- Semi-semblance of a social life - that is, friends do drop by 

4- Struggling social life, at least you have a Facebook account 

5- Moderate social life, you actually go out during day time and mingle at least few times a week 

6- Decent social life, your daily excurisons outside of the house do just not include trips to doctors and shrinks   

7- Emerging socialite, you get invited to parties, bars and whatnot and finally have a reason to go glam 

8- Graduated socialite, your Smartphone is innduated with texts and emails inviting you to go out - time to wear that $100 dress! 

9- Social Butterfly, you know the latest on friends, parties, etc - your phone #, Facebook account, and email is in demand   

10- MISS POPULAR - Hooray, you've got it all! Friends, endless string of lovers, you are always in the spotlight everywhere you go! 



So how would you rate your social life? 

[Rabbit]

In the last 9 months (as long as I've been on hormones) I went from

2- Loser, but do get out of the house occasionally even if it is just for a grocery run

to

7- Emerging socialite, you get invited to parties, bars and whatnot and finally have a reason to go glam

...

The thing is, before hormones, I honestly didn't want to go out. I had a couple friends but always made excuses why I couldn't go out and they definitely never came to my place.

It wasn't because I was uncomfortable... it was just I rather wanted to stay home.

And now, I have a lot more friends... and am a lot more friendly and easy to approach (when I saw family over thanksgiving, they all noticed I was a bit different and much more sociable).

I consider it an improvement (and definitely will help with my career as I go forward... so extra bonus).

When I started hormones, I didn't realize they could have such large effects

[Mahsa Tezani]

Struggling social life due to having a MARRIED boyfriend who controls my every move it seems. I get out about twice a month and he keeps tabs on me the entire time. The only socializing he allows is the local horror shows he puts on for his geek friends. LMAO, I glamour up for them...pathetic. No one ever pays attention to me there, I have to go to SF.

I had a booming one when I was single...But I wasn't trans then. My life sucks.

[Lily]

1, badly wishing I could be at least a 5.

I'm too shy to make friends properly, it takes a long time for me to not be super shy around someone new (has nothing to do with trans stuff... I've become uncharacteristically open about that to non-family) and most people don't have the patience I guess.

[Zarania]

i'd say 2 for me.

now some ppl ask why.. well. i dont want to make friends now because i hate getting negative commands about transitioning... if everything works well i'll be on hormones in summer when i start my apprentice-ship.

i just hate getting dissapointed.. like people really fast mean alot to me and it just hurts and i cant take that..


# if i'd look like mahsa i'd be a whore and my sociallife would probably be 8~

lets see if i can get that beautiful one day ;3

[Hikari]

hmm, about 5-6 I would say, I would like that to be much higher.

[Mahsa Tezani]

# if i'd look like mahsa i'd be a whore and my sociallife would probably be 8~

lets see if i can get that beautiful one day ;3

Thanks. I guess...

What does that ;3 mean? I thought it meant laughing?

[Devlyn]

Ummm, I'm sorry, where do you keep the negative numbers??? Hugs, Devlyn

[fionabell]

9

[30kps]

2. Go team loser! Though after my mini photo shoot today (see profile pic) I might decide to force myself a bit higher.

[MacKenzie]

Welp, considering i'm hardly ever online i'm gonna say 11!   

[Joelene9]

  #4- Struggling, with no facebook account.  I don't trust Facebook.  Sometimes I visit friends and relatives, active member and a board member of a club of 350 people.  New set of emotions that came out this past year, it is hard to try to get more social after 59 years as a loner.  I'm trying. 
  Joelene

[sysm29]

I want to say 1 but I do go grocery shopping.  I mean I have to eat.  So 2, but my social life has always been nearly non-existent.  My sex life would be in negatives, like freezing temperatures.  lol

[Annah]

My social life is an 18. Wished it was lower.

My typical day Mon thru Thursday):
Seminary from 8 am to 4pm
Wednesday: Lead Church service at Nursing Home as well as room visits from 1pm to 4pm
Barnes and Noble work from 5pm to 11 pm

Friday:
8 am to 1 pm: Working at the Church
4 pm to 11:30 pm Work at Barnes and Noble

Saturday:
10am to 4 pm: work at B&N
4 pm to 12 am: shopping or going out

Sunday:
8am to 2pm: Lead Church service
4pm to 10pm: work at B&N

Sex life is very good

[None]

Pre-transition:

4 (Struggling social life) - Some good friends, some not so good friends, but socially awkward, introverted, and fake feeling. Generally I only saw people at school, I tended to prefer being alone.

Early-mid transition:

3 (Semi-semblance of social life) - Lost touch with old friends, rarely went outside, emotionally unstable and addicted to stimulants. Still saw people, but was very rarely sober. At this point, my life was a rollercoaster of constant ups and downs, during the ups I didn't want people to see me, and during the downs I could barely bring myself to get out of bed.

Right now (1 1/2 years fulltime):

7 (Emerging socialite) - Don't have a lot of time to see people during the week due to my university courseload, but I take full advantage of the weekends to get outside and socialize. I kicked the drug habit more than 8 months ago, and it's made a world of difference.  With everything settled down and the stimulants out of my system, I'm noticing just how much happier, confident and outgoing I am, and everybody who has seen me recently has noticed as well. I go out with friends at least once a month, generally to raves or concerts, and see my boyfriend at least once a week, despite our insane schedules.

In a nutshell, I was the stereotype of a depressed transgirl who only saw shrinks, but only really during that rough phase of my transition. Nowadays, I'm mostly just a stereotypical overworked  and underslept undergrad 

Also, first post, hi errybody!

[Lily]

I don't think I could work at a Barnes & Noble. It would end up like the time I did volunteer work at a library. I'd be putting books away, see one interesting and end up reading it for a half hour.

[stldrmgrl]

I rate my social life [at the moment] between 5 and 6.

[Annah]

I don't think I could work at a Barnes & Noble. It would end up like the time I did volunteer work at a library. I'd be putting books away, see one interesting and end up reading it for a half hour.

i love Barnes and Noble. Best part time job i have ever had. Putting books away is just a small fraction of my time there.

Another reason why B&N is well loved because they offer srs to their transgender employees....even part timers.

[madirocks]

I'd say that for the past few years it has been about a three or four for me. Social life always depends on the type of people that are around you. Prior to moving, I'd say my social life was more like a 9 or 10. I miss those days, and I look forward to moving back home. Not that being popular is at all important, but having people to talk to is.

[JadeS]

pre-transition i was at 1, now i'm at 6 i think