Quote from: Sandy on December 30, 2011, 06:38:38 AM
From a clinical point of view, I think it is a multiple of factors.
Relating from my own experience, I never found men as exciting as women. From a physical aspect I could appreciate a muscular, well built man, like the image of DaVinci's "David", but I never felt any attraction to them. Women's soft curves and tender skin always seemed magical to me.
Now...
I still consider myself lesbian and I am in a committed lesbian relationship, and I still find women alluring.
However, over the course of my transition and my time on HRT, I have found the male form to be interesting. Very interesting. The hard body and body hair that I found so disgusting on me, I find very sensual on men.
I have had intercourse with men and while the experiences were fun, did not live up to my expectations. I won't go into the details, because they would be too salacious for this forum. But think wam-bam-thank-you-mam...
But still the idea of men can still make my toes curl.
I personally think that as the cross hormone therapy changes our bodies, it also changes our brains. It opens pathways within our most powerful sexual organ, the brain. And, as I contend and more documentation shows, we have basically female brains to one extent or another, we become more hetero-normative.
Also from a social integration standpoint, as we transition to our proper place in society we allow ourselves the freedom to look at men in a new light. When previously we may have been so closeted as to deny any thoughts of having sexual relations with men.
I personally think it is primarily a primordial sexual urge driven by our newly re-wired brains. Because when I try to rationally imagine having a true on-going relationship with a man as a partner and husband, it all falls apart. Realistically, no man would really want a woman like me. Pushing 60, sterile, a family of my own, and oh by the way, I was born with a outdoor plumbing. If he didn't have a problem with it, someone he knew would have a problem with it. Either his family, or his friends, or whatever. And that usually puts an end to it.
See Calperia Addams three steps to dating a man. It's true. There is no fourth date.
Bottom line is, accept and go on. This is who we are. And the one thing we have learned through this process is to allow ourselves to sit back and enjoy the ride.
-Sandy
ouch Michelangelo's David!!!
Yes he is quite an attractive guy isn't it?
I believe that changes are not related to chemicals, but to how we perceive ourself (chemical just sign a point of no return in the progress of mind transitioning, and they do it everyday ) and as more I perceive myself woman As more I feel my real emotions toward everything, included men.
Thus I mean I am starting to have the easy teardrop, i am very emotional, also if i try to act normally, and as much as i like more girl things, i am discovering of being more attracted by men than by women ( still i like them, but more as wish of becoming like them!).
Pretty normal stuff!!!
I guess the first poster is in the same situation.
I think this is a good thing of transitioning so i wouldn't worry that much.
Maybe it can become uncomfortable sitting near a nice guy, and couldn't do anything to seduce him, but well this happens when you liked girls too so u should e bacquainted with fantasies. I am.
The real problem in transitioning is all the time wishing normal things, like proper clothes, the possibility to buy make up and use it everyday without look like a clown, and the horrible deformities of the body (the ugliness in between the legs ) and sooo on!
