How to cope with emotions?

[Alainaluvsu]

Estrogen is definitely playing with my emotions. Since I've started, I've been very happy because I've had no reason to be sad. In school today, somebody said something that hurt my feelings, and it really wasn't anything major. I'm friends with another student in my class in her mid 40s who knows I have alot of estrogen in my blood, and very low testosterone for male levels, but doesn't know why. She has 2 daughters (1 going thru puberty now), and I was talking about what upset me with her and she of course gave me the "this is what becoming a girl is like" talk, and went on to say I am just being overly sensitive but that she knows what I'm going through and it's okay.

I wanted to ask her this, but it slipped my mind cuz my brain was too busy dealing with hurt feelings. Anyways, how do yall deal with your overly sensitive emotions? I don't really have much of anybody to talk to about this stuff, and well the ppl I do have all seem like they don't wanna hear about it. Does anybody have any stories about their emotions and maybe a way they started getting over them?

[stldrmgrl]

I can't really help considering since I've been on HRT, I've become more bitchy.  If someone said something hurtful and it was intentional, I'd either confront them about it or I'd just shrug it off and not give a damn.  Could go either way depending on my mood.

[Alainaluvsu]

I used to not give a damn, or be like eff u for the rest of the day until I started HRT. IDT she even meant to hurt me, but it did.Ugh I hate feeling like I'm gonna cry for absolutely nothing!

[stldrmgrl]

There is nothing wrong with crying.  I have cried for what seemed to be petty reasons, and sometimes for no reason at all.  I know it is frustrating and I wish I could offer more help, but the most I can tell you is hang in there.  Also, you mentioned not having many people to talk to.  I will read anything you wish to post; sometimes just simply telling someone can offer relief.

[Alainaluvsu]

aww ty!

[stldrmgrl]

aww ty!

No need to thank me, we are all deserving of a lending ear

[Anatta]

Kia Ora A,

  How to cope with emotions?   "Insight meditation" Tis better to get to 'know' your enemy * then make them your friend !...

Metta Zenda

[Rabbit]

Oooo emotions... so so so so fun.

Yea, I have been having some really crazy emotional events too. How I deal with it? I cry Some days are really bad and it can really get in the way of work I need to do (which, is the only thing that is a real pain...)

If I'm out in public, I try to escape from the sittuation so others don't see me cry haha.

This type of random emotional sensitivity is really ...uhmm...an experience? Definitely different than anything before. I hear after a year or two of hrt it will start to be more controllable (but, I kind of hope it doesn't, I like the emotions).

Sometimes I just don't have time for it though. If I just have to be somewhere... well... there isn't much option. So I have just cried in the car while driving (I cry silently, so it isn't a problem, just drips tears all over and short breaths).

Often the episodes are relatively quick... I can feel soo so so so sad and cry one minute...and then a minute later be completely fine and thinking "wtf was that?". Definitely fun hahaha

[Padma]

The one thing I'd say is don't fall into the trap of thinking your feelings aren't 'valid' because they're in some way caused by hormonal changes. They're still your feelings, and need to be responded to with compassion. I've found myself more emotional since starting HRT, but I attribute this more to feeling more vulnerable whilst going through big changes, than to the effect of the hormones themselves. Take care of yourself xx

[Alainaluvsu]

Thanks for the insight yall

My issue isn't with crying... I can always hold back until I get to a spot, it's just feeling like crap inside. Ugh I wish things didn't effect me like this in some ways, but in other ways, when I'm happy I could sing, ya know?? And I tend to be happy far far more than feeling sad.

[Caisie Breen]

  Crying! Wow. I've been in transition for over seven years and in my old life, I didn't cry. I was determined and proud of not crying. I absolutely refused to cry ever (except when my grandmother died).

But what a change I've gone through. Watching any show that remotely resembles a tear jerker, really gets my eyes watering. And most recently - and the reason I'm getting an Orchi next week and my ID changed, I was asked for my ID at Costco and without a warning, I began crying out loud. I was so embarrassed!

I am sooo looking forward to my surgery and new ID. I've been open to the world as my real self, a beautiful woman since August. Even my employees have accepted me. But yes, emotions are something that's taking some getting used to.

[fionabell]

I've haven't started hrt yet but I can't wait to tear up. I felt a little bit of emotion lately but not much.

It'll be nice to feel good emotions again instead of male emotions

[Alainaluvsu]

I've haven't started hrt yet but I can't wait to tear up. I felt a little bit of emotion lately but not much.

It'll be nice to feel good emotions again instead of male emotions

My emotional senses didn't just elevate, they skyrocketed....

I went from a dull, unshakable (although easily frustrate) person to a (generally) smiley yet easily-reversable-to-emotional "aww" machine! And to think, I thought because I could be touched by movies before that I was emotional. I hadn't seen anything! If my boss said something that he disapproved of me doing, I used to get frustrated and contemplate ways of showing him that I'm right, now I freeze up and think about it all day, sometimes even to the point of wanting to go home and whine about it. Estrogen is a helluva... hormone!

And when I'm in a bad mood, guys tend to leave me the hell alone now as opposed to laughing and trying to spur my frustration on like they used to. I've been known to unleash a very cold stare and say some cutting stuff since I've been unable to control my emotions as well!

[Madison (kiara jamie)]

my emotions are hard to tell if they are elevated or just normal since, when i started hormones i was in the middle of courting a cute girl i just met as a male, and now that she has gone from finding me attractive to now finding me as a friend and not attractive is playing on my thoughts, ive been thinking that she has lost attractions towards me because of me loosing my male pheromone from testosterone, and my more feminizing figure(which hasn't really developed due to my intensely physical work), or my exceptionally long feminine length hair, she is making me doubt my GID and almost make me want to stop hormones and cut my hair but the only reason i don't is that my brain is telling me that i had strong GID emotions before she rejected me and that its just rejection attraction, its making my brain fight my emotions and it feels like they're gonna tear me apart

phwoo that was long and probably was supposed to be in another post but meh

[Felix]

I've always been very thin-skinned. I dealt with it by incorporating it into my personality and refusing to apologize for it or accept anyone else's explanations for it. Even if hormones have a huge effect, who you are is still who you are, and you have a right to that identity regardless what influences it.

I just started hrt myself. I still have estrogen cycling high and low, but now I also have T cycling high and low, and the two are duking it out. Lol. As a man, I'm distancing myself from feelings, apparently.

Anyway, if you are to be female, you might want to accept having your feelings or opinions occasionally written off as hormonal silliness. Whether it's correct or not is nobody's business but your own, and you can hold your head high no matter what other girls think. And what boys think is irrelevant.

[Keaira]

Hmm... Well, if I have to have a little cry, I'll do it right where I am. Major ones and I'll curl up on the bathroom floor and sob quietly. After having Man-Emotions, it takes time to learn control the floodgate of female emotions. Now I laugh so hard at funny videos that I think I'm going to cough up a lung. And I'm so happy about that.  All these emotions are real. You will feel them for the rest of your life. This is a power that you will learn to master. ^_^

[Keaira]

I just started hrt myself. I still have estrogen cycling high and low, but now I also have T cycling high and low, and the two are duking it out. Lol. As a man, I'm distancing myself from feelings, apparently.

Your not so much distancing yourself as chucking out 80-90% of the really subtle emotions. But I think you will be okay. ^_^

[justmeinoz]

I used to bottle things up, and stew on an incident for days.  Now I blow up or get upset straight away and get through it quickly.  It is a much better way  to be.

Karen.

[MsDazzler]

Yeah, I need to work on that myself, heh