The Power of "The Ring"

[tgirljuliewilson]

I'm 6'1" tall, and weigh about160 lbs.

Facially, I cannot "pass" (until FFS, I hope!), but can make people wonder....

I get by on being nicely dressed, having a flat tummy (thanks to diet and exercise) and very wide hips (thanks to padding).  One key ingredient I recently added has made a lot of difference--a medium-sized diamond engagement ring and a matching wedding band on my left hand.

Oddly enough, the power of "the ring" seems to sway those who would otherwise doubt my gender.  Questionable looks dissolve once I flash my left hand, especially when grocery shopping (!) but also in the general public spaces (bank, library, etc.).

Clothes, hair, makeup...nothing has quite pushed me over the edge of acceptability as what I've experienced since I started wearing my rings.  Has anyone else had any similar experiences?

Don't get me wrong--I love my new enhanced abilty to "pass", but to do so over something so simple as wearing a traditional engagement and wedding ring (?)...

[fionabell]

an american man bought me an engagement ring. This is really interesting. I'll have to start wearing it!

[fionabell]

No it makes sense.

I think anyone who's engaged, or married has some kind of social status whether they are trans or not.

If a transwoman is engaged then that's sure to put people at their ease. It's such a stable and normalizing status. I'm really going think about this.

[Jenny_B_Good]

Thanks for sharing this Julie.... I'm positive there's alot of girls out there who will appreciate the advice. I did.

Something I picked up from a GG that's useful (if your well endowed- as she was) was stroking the chest bone with a single finger. Naturally it brings your attention to the chest, and stops the gaze in someones eyes. Great trick. If a little demeaning.

Thanks again,

Jen



PS.... The power of the "Ring" - Got me reading for a totally different reason.    Thought you maybe alluding to us pre-op MTF's. You know, a kind of sexual empowerment rant or something.... oh well

[fionabell]

Something I picked up from a GG that's useful(if your well endowed- as she was) was stroking the chest bone with a single finger. Naturally it brings your attention to the chest, and stops the glaze in someone eyes.

I don't understand what this has to do with a ring. Also why is someone's eyes glazing?

[Jenny_B_Good]

I don't understand what this has to do with a ring. Also why is someone's eyes glazing?

1.) I was referring to a trick that one may use to help pass in public.

2.) Glazing? I meant gaze into eyes...sorry

[GinaDouglas]

It's kindaa interesting that your topic-title hints at magic.  I think everyone passes when they believe they pass.  If you believe the ring helps, it helps.  But maybe it helps because it makes you feel more like a girl.

[Annah]

I think everyone passes when they believe they pass.  If you believe the ring helps, it helps.  But maybe it helps because it makes you feel more like a girl.

+1 this

[Mahsa Tezani]

I have a magic ring too.

It does magical stuff to get me on top.

[Torn1990]

I have a magic ring too.

It does magical stuff to get me on top.

i worked at a sex shop, so this made me lol.

[Mahsa Tezani]

i worked at a sex shop, so this made me lol.

+1

[Mahsa Tezani]

What helped me most in my transition was a magical door stop which helped protect me from tigers.

I paid 50 bucks for that magical door stop at a flea market in The Tender Loins.

[tgirljuliewilson]

It's kindaa interesting that your topic-title hints at magic.  I think everyone passes when they believe they pass.  If you believe the ring helps, it helps.  But maybe it helps because it makes you feel more like a girl.

Thanks, Gina--I had not thought of that, but now it makes sense.  Just as with adding a little jewelry or perfume, I have no doubt that I am more confident in my femininity when wearing my rings.  The combination of the diamond ring and the matching wedding band does help me exude a feeling of pride and a "Yes, I'm a woman--I'm even married" attitude.

Now the problem is the possibility of frightening away any potential Mr. Right, but hey, like in chess, it's one move at a time...

[GinaDouglas]

Maybe you could lose the wedding ring, and still get the same effect.