Most of those actions seem pretty silly to me. Putting a hand on a hand or arm is definitely the most flirty of those, but it's a bit too straightforward. The rest are things that I might have had a quiet laugh about afterward; they're just too stereotypical, and too caricaturized.
While I was attracted to girls before I started my transition, I would not have even considered being with any girl that wasn't unique. I found individuality attractive - not just in style or appearance, but in behaviour or philosophy as well. Intelligence was also a very attractive trait, and was often found in the "unique" group. Girls that might do thing like those you described just blended into the crowd to me... If I were to have been romantically interested in girls, she could have stood out by competing with me, academically, or to debate against me. Bonus points if she would win! But with all these, it would be important that she knows how to relax, have fun, goof around, and/or just be weird.
So. I guess I'll add that to your list. The feminine wiles that worked for me were displays of intelligence, subtle or not, displays of a competitive, fiery spirit, engaging in debate or philosophical discussion, displays of goofiness/weirdness, and an aura that tells me she loves to have lighthearted fun.
Someone with all of those qualities would just be pure perfection.
