Girl voice sounds weird

[Alyx.]

Does this happen to everyone? I'm used to my voice sounding lower and louder, it makes me sound more timid and I hate being timid.

Will I get used to it? Do I just have to use it for a while and then it will become normal, like weird ass controls on a new video game?

[AudreyH]

I've been recently practicing my voice a lot recently, and at first it was very weird but now I'm growing more accustomed to this early-stage voice. I'm not happy with in several ways because I feel like I talk a little bit too monotone in fears that my male resonance will emerge if I relax over time, but within the few days I've been nailing this down its grown into my natural voice and something I much prefer to my male voice. But everyone's different so I can't personally tell you how normal and familar it will become for you, but aspect with practice you'll be able to have a female voice without sounding timid and that'll certainly help you adjust.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Alex,
You've asked some good questions in a key confidence area of transition.

Does this happen to everyone?

In the majority of cases, yes.

Will I get used to it?

Eventually, depending on how much you practice. It may occur faster if you were to change one of your sentences slightly. From "it makes me sound more timid and I hate being timid." to " it makes me sound more feminine and I love being feminine"

Do I just have to use it for a while and then it will become normal, like weird ass controls on a new video game?

Yes. Transition presents a major remapping situation to the brain in many areas. The voice included. When you speak, the brain listens to what is being said and makes realtime adjustments to the content and style of delivery.

When we attempt to force our new feminine voice into action, the brain immediately responds by rejecting what it hears as this is quite foreign to what it is expecting. Persevere and you'll soon remap the auditory response section of your brain to accept and improve your feminine voice.

Keep up the great work. You'll be there in no time. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
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[Kelly J. P.]

 It could be that your voice really does sound too timid. I've noticed that it was that way when I first used it, though with time it has grown to be quite bold... this is a matter of expression though, as opposed to actual sound. Being pushed to a timid expression out of fear for the limitations of our female voices is a common and uncomfortable feeling.

When we attempt to force our new feminine voice into action, the brain immediately responds by rejecting what it hears as this is quite foreign to what it is expecting. Persevere and you'll soon remap the auditory response section of your brain to accept and improve your feminine voice.

I would disagree on a personal level. Perhaps this is the case for many, but in my experience, my male voice was rejected by my brain up until the last day of its use. I never got used to it, and I never enjoyed the sound of it. I cringed with every word. On the other hand, in the first days of using my female voice, my brain realized that these were the sounds that I was meant to make.

Based on this, I would suspect that the cause of feelings of foreignness are pretty variable, and the feelings do not appear universally. It could be that a voice sounds strange because it sounds imperfect, as opposed to being unfamiliar. Although I'm sure feelings of unfamiliarity are quite common as well...

It would be interesting to hear what your voice sounds like, Alex; maybe altering it would make it sound less timid. It's more than understandable if you're reserved about posting a sample, though!

[AbraCadabra]

Well, these days when I'm slipping into my lower registers, just for the heck of it, it actually sound quite frightening to ME.
And I get shocked and immediately go back to my 'normal' femme voice. Yes, it sounds more breathy, yet not forced too high which for a woman my age mostly sounds quite wrong. Female voices, lots, go lots lower with age too...

So, yes, you will get used to it, and will NOT want to go down in register, in will fact try and avoid it to the point that this lower voice will not sound like your own any more. That's my experience.

Funny is, that now I notice that a number natal female voices are quite some lower then mine, and it is in fact startling at times. A sort of... oh...!, effect.

One thing I noticed, when I have lengthy serious talks my voice does drop, yet same seems to happen with most natal female, maybe not quite a drastically, though. The sweeter I FEEL the chirpier my voice gets, quite normal too that.

Axélle

[Keaira]

I would disagree on a personal level. Perhaps this is the case for many, but in my experience, my male voice was rejected by my brain up until the last day of its use. I never got used to it, and I never enjoyed the sound of it. I cringed with every word. On the other hand, in the first days of using my female voice, my brain realized that these were the sounds that I was meant to make.

I've ALWAYS hated my voice. It's not the most masculine and most people say it's gender neutral, especially since it doesn't come from below. But to me, any voice I change to sounds bad. I have to push myself to listen to how my voice sounds. Part of it too I think is that I tend to feel pretty uncomfortable practicing with my wife beside me as she is now, playing World of Warcraft.

The funny thing is, I  get called Ma'am all the time on the phone with my natural voice.