It's a good point of view, and I thank you for posting it.
But I must add this: the great majority of trans women, by definition, have a lot of things they (almost) absolutely need to change to look acceptable, contrary to cis women. Both tend to focus on the bad aspects of their physical appearance, but in our case, part of it is justified in most cases. However, we tend to hate our bodies so much that it's likely that we can't pinpoint what's truly bad and what's actually okay.
Also, (speaking for myself but I imagine I'm not alone) trans women, having lived as male for years, might have less of a "sense of style/beauty", or a lower ability to judge a female appearance. Also, the depressing elements from living as what you are not might have, like in my case, induced a type of strong introversion that would have had the effect of ignoring one's body; of "not seeing what you don't want to see", making a person not only too critical on themself, but even unable to discern what looks good or not on them.
And lastly, because we have lived for so long in a body we hate and might feel our youth/childhood/teenage has been "stolen away", as well as because there are a few masculine things about our bodies we can never change, I feel it may be justified for us to sort of try to overcompensate.
The key to taking good decisions, I think, is having neither toxic, self-produced negative opinions nor sugar-coated , almost false statements about how everything is perfect. I see both around here: beautiful girls complaining a lot about minor things they still look pretty with, and people saying "passable but nothing more" girls look FABULOUS and have ZERO ISSUES.
It looks like it's hard for us to neither fall in the "I'm super ugly and will never pass" trap nor ignore fairly important passing issues and expose ourselves to big pain should we ever be clocked for something we didn't know.
I feel like I've just rambled on for way too long, and haven't said much useful...
Anyhow, thank you, mixie.
