->-bleeped-<- and transsexualism are expressions of life-loving invention
Transilluminations
by Eva Hayward
January 7, 2012
http://goqnotes.com/14102/->-bleeped-<--and-transsexualism-are-expressions-of-life-loving-invention/A love affair broke out between a transsexual woman — male to female — and a transgender man — female to male.
I have lived as a woman for years and he had recently transitioned from female to male. I define as transsexual — someone who feels an essential need to modify her body — and he is transgender — not necessarily wanting sex reassignment. I always desired men and he always women. While sex and gender identity do not define one's sexuality, we moved across cultural categories of gay and lesbian, man and woman. Neither of us was looking for a transgender lover, but we found each other and became a different kind of heterosexual couple.
Although relationships can be complicated, love is often quite simple. In many ways, our relationship is no more or less convoluted than any other: Do you desire me as much as I desire you? Has this relationship changed me, or not? And, in other ways, the coupling feels novel.
