Dropping hints.

[Jasper1408]

Soooooo, I've slowly been dropping hints to my mother for about six months now. She knows I plan to transition, but it's something that she doesn't fully accept yet. Mainly due to my father. He's a very close-minded individual and has told me multiple times about how he's uncomfortable with the gay lifestyle. If he was uncomfortable with me being a butch lesbian, let's see how uncomfortable he'll be with me being trans! >_<

Anyway, I spoke with a therapist today to deal with my anxiety, and he had me write down all of the things that make me anxious or depressed, the main point being coming out to my mom. He suggested I go to a gender therapist to discuss further options. I told this to my mom and... she took it surprisingly well.

I'll update y'all with the results and we'll see if my mom is accepting of me starting up on T again! Thanks for the support!

[Cindy]

Good luck Jaspar. You just have to keep pushing and gradually wear them down

It is your life, not their's

Cindy

[fuschia]

The most important thing is to not let anyone stand in the way of your transition. If your parents are accepting, then wonderful; if not, then you've just gotta keep doing what's best for you and hope they come around!  I was fortunate to have very supportive parents, but many of my friends' parents did not want them to transition. But in all my experience with the trans community the message that sticks out the most is... The sooner you begin your transition, the better. If you know this is what's right (and it sounds like you do) then go for it! Hehe 

[Diamonds_Pearls28]

I've been doing the same thing with my mom. I've dropped about a dozen hints over the past two weeks but I still don't think she's getting it. She knows I'm asking my doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist too she just doesn't know what for. I told her it's not something I want to just come out and say until I have everything in place. My dad is pretty much the same way as yours Jasper, he didn't even like it when I thought I was a Gay male I can only imagine how he's going to feel about this. Like Fuschia said it's just important not to let anyone stand in your way which is what I've realized as well.

[Jasper1408]

Well, she now knows I'm going to see a gender therapist and I keep telling her about gender and sexuality, buuuuuuuuuuuuut... she'll acknowledge the therapist, but not the reasons. She just keeps asking when I'm seeing my shrink. Le sigh. Parental units be crazy.

[ValleyGirl]

Anyone who would use the phrase "gay lifestyle" isn't worthy of your time, even if that person is your father. You need to do what's right for you - and that may come at the expense of your relationship with your family. I'm glad your mother is accepting - somewhat. Mine is grappling with it with a somewhat lukewarm response. I haven't yet told my father, and I don't know how he, or my stepmother will react... I've been dropping hints too. It's only a matter of time before comments are made about my shape changing, and so on... you've got to do what's best.

It's a good thing you're seeing a specialist and getting the support you need. You need to prepare yourself for it backfiring in your face, however. Your father, who is already uncomfortable with you, might just be pushed over the edge... prepare yourself. Ultimately, your happiness matters most.