my wife opened up to me about my transition

[jainie marlena]

As you may know my wife left me back in March not in a good way. She has gone through alot just as I have. I have opened up on this forum about my wife in the past because I could not understand how she could just leave me and put me through the heart ache both emotionally and fiscally. I will not go off into financial side of this that I was left in or the abandonment.
People do things that you never thought that they would but to understand why to me is way more needful. She has battled for her love for me in a way that I can't believe while I came here for comfort. She excepts that am not turning back. The same as I have battled with coming out and excepting myself she has had to do the same. How? Coming out as a person who love a transsexual is a hard thing to do. Many voices coming at you from people who do not except it trying to turn your heart from who you love.

She is going through her own transition. She is still in love with me but is couping with what everyone else thinks about her. The bad things that I said about her are starting to make sense in a good why. one thing I understand doing the wrong thing only because I have done the wrong thing for years ,however; doing the wrong thing helps you understand why someone else is doing it. I know why I did it so I understand way she was doing it to me. She was not trying to hurt me as it felt but trying to understand her self just as I was trying to understand myself. I could not hold this against her no matter what she did to me.

Are we getting Back together? No, not at the present time. We are working out things a little at a time. She told me that she tried to be with someone else but it was not the same. The sad thing is we have been together for almost 20 years and never really knew each other. we have not changed we have just began to open up about who we really are. What does the future hold for us? I can't tell as yet but the answers are coming in their own time.

[Keaira]

At least you are both communicating.  My wife too is trying to come to terms with my transition. She used to fight me tooth and nail about it. It was a huge stress factor in our marriage. But now, she still doesn't support me bt she isn't fighting me anymore either. I'm sure my marriage wi end one day. But not for now.

*hugs*
good puck to you both. I do hope everything works out.

[jainie marlena]

thanks, I am just happy that we are starting to talk through it.

[spacial]

Looking good there janie

[jainie marlena]

thanks, I thought I would add this pic so when I change the picture others would know what your talking about.

[Kim 526]

Hi Jainie,

Yes, you are looking real good. But in your photo I see sadness. I hope for your happiness and am glad you are at least starting to work things out. You are a sweet person and I want all of us - you especially - to be happy.

Hugs, Kim

[jainie marlena]

@Kim 526 someone said I need to smile but it is coming from feeling alone all the time. It is my girl alone look. I don't fit in anywhere I am an outcast from both genders suck to be in the middle. My wife did open up to me last week but I feel her turning on me again.