So I came out to my parents.. Now what?

[Ribbons]

Around Christmas time I came out to my mom. She doesn't quite grasp the concept but she seems accepting. She still refers to me as a girl and occasionally berates me for not acting lady-like but she's accepting enough.

I haven't spoken to her in a while though - we don't live together and she's too busy working or something. Last thing I remember was her asking me what she could do to "help me", and that she was going to read up into this as much as possible.

I'm thinking of letting her talk to my grandparents about this. They're my guardians but I'm too nervous to talk about anything with them. I'm not out to them but they're accepting of trans people. 

There's one issue though.. I don't like talking about my gender. I don't talk too much about it with her, I divert the conversation when we discuss it or make it as short as possible. Either that or I spaz out and get embarrassed.   

[Sharky]

Whatever you want. There is no right path or time line.
Glad to hear your mom is accepting. Good luck with the g parents.
Maybe write them a letter to cut back the talking?

[caleb91]

Is there someone you can speak to about this? Who can help you gain the skills in order to be more comfortable with discussing your gender?

If not, as the poster above suggested, you could put it all in writing so that way the info is all presented in a way you intend for it to go.

[Ribbons]

Is there someone you can speak to about this? Who can help you gain the skills in order to be more comfortable with discussing your gender?

My mom wants to ask one of my aunts, since she's pretty good with this stuff, but I'm unsure if that's a good idea. I'm not good with expressing myself plus I'm unsure how she'll react. She can be conservative at times.

[Dante]

Congrats on your mom being accepting.

Don't worry; you're not alone about talking. I basically cannot talk about it at all. I get really nervous, embarrassed, and generally uncomfortable if it's brought up. I've tried writing letters and emails and such, but it's hard to sustain a conversation that way.

[Felix]

If your mom talks to her parents about you, how do you think your first conversation with them afterward will go? Seems like that might still be nervewracking.