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Can't put it off much longer...

Started by Kreuzfidel, January 21, 2012, 08:58:05 PM

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Kreuzfidel

I have a dilemma and could use your advice.  I am not out to my family - I live in Australia and they live in the US.  My sister and I are very close and she most likely knows about my being trans as she is on my facebook (sees my male appearance and name).  I am starting T on Tuesday.  The thing is, I can't hide the changes for long.  Every time I want to tell them, there's an emergency - my grandmother with Alzheimer's is moved into a home, my drug addict Aunt who lives with my grandfather falls and breaks her jaw, etc.  They know of my wife and I and undoubtedly assume I'm a butch lesbian.  I wanted to mail them a physical letter, but now my Mom has moved in with my grandfather and Aunt and has now been hooked on painkillers and has become "righteous" and a born-again Christian.  My sister, who lives in another state, has just had to look for another place to live.  I didn't want to come out via email, but I may have to with my sister.  My Mom, grandfather and Aunt have no Net access.  I feel kind of lost.
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Paul

Hmm, that is a tough one.

I have a HUGE family so I ended up sending out multiple facebook messages to them telling them which I think went well.  However I'm MUCH better when writing things out than trying to explain things verbally.

I guess my suggestion would be to email your siser and tell her (although like you said I'm sure she's guessed) and see how that goes first and maybe the two of you can come up with a way to tell your mom and the rest of your family.    It's not easy when religion is involved.  I am a Christian and have lots of Christian friends and they were the ones I was most worried about telling, yet 99.9% of them have been incredibly supportive so you never know.

Good luck man and let us know how you make out!
It's hard to see through clouds of grey in a world full of Black and White.



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Kreuzfidel

Thanks, Paul, that's a really good suggestion.  She has more contact with the rest of them so probably would have better ideas on broaching the subject than me.  I appreciate it, mate.
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