Stuff Cis People Say to Trans People

[Nygeel]

Enjoy!

[dmx]

Lol.

The few times I've told people about my medical history, I was invariably asked the surgery question. Got the name one a few times too.

[Hermione01]

Love it!    They're both so cute.

[Aussie Jay]

That was hilarious!! I had a little giggle at this guy too!!

Sh*t trans* guys say.

[Silver]

XD All I can say. So accurate.

[Max]

Both videos were helpful mood lighteners, especially the second one.  I needed a good laugh so thanks for sharing.

[Sam-]

literally spit my water out when he did the first "hey guys this is my voice _ months on t"

[Hayzer12]

That was hilarious!! I had a little giggle at this guy too!!

Sh*t trans* guys say.

Yeah the part where he said "my armpits are bleeding again" i lold because I swear I said that yesterday.

[Keaira]

Sorry, but the title grabbed my attention

From my point of view I thought that was pretty interesting and funny. Do you really ask " does this shirt make me look flat?"
How many of those questions are accurate?

I've been asked if I've had the surgery so much I give out the URL to a blog post that answers it. So, that's a universal one for both of us. ^_^

[Leek]

LOL @ the shirt pulling thing in the second video. SO true. And the "touch my packer" thing.

And the whole "the surgery" thing, as well, in the first one. So true. (Is it only me, or does anyone else specifically hate it when cissies use the term "the surgery." Some people say it with a wink and a nod and this air of "I know what I'm talking about because I watch Jerry Springer; Don't worry, I'm 'in the know.'" and it's kind of annoying, especially in light of the fact that there is no one surgery, especially when we're talking specifically about FTM's, and a lot of trans people are non-op to begin with. Not to mention that it's totally irrelevant whether someone has had any surgery or not. [I want a T-shirt that says "There is no 'the surgery.'"])

[caseyyy]

I liked both videos...the part that made me LOL on the second was the shirt pulling as well. I do that all the time hoping no one will notice.

[Cindy]

I even got it from my Doctor, "Are you going to have the surgery?'

[Keaira]

LOL @ the shirt pulling thing in the second video. SO true. And the "touch my packer" thing.

And the whole "the surgery" thing, as well, in the first one. So true. (Is it only me, or does anyone else specifically hate it when cissies use the term "the surgery." Some people say it with a wink and a nod and this air of "I know what I'm talking about because I watch Jerry Springer; Don't worry, I'm 'in the know.'" and it's kind of annoying, especially in light of the fact that there is no one surgery, especially when we're talking specifically about FTM's, and a lot of trans people are non-op to begin with. Not to mention that it's totally irrelevant whether someone has had any surgery or not. [I want a T-shirt that says "There is no 'the surgery.'"])

Touch my packer? are you kidding me? thats nasty. LMAO! Boys will be boys I guess.

I think 'The Surgery' question is just dumb. And I get asked it by people who think that I had it because I took 4 days off last year. So I use it to my advantage. I dont tell them anything! I let them figure it out.

[Padma]

I often get "So, are you going to have it cut off?" to which I invariably reply "No, I'm going to have it turned inside out, and then I'm going to grow potatoes..."

It's funny, isn't it, how on the one hand, people ask such inappropriately personal questions (because they're curious/fascinated), and on the other hand, we volunteer such personal answers because we sometimes just really want to tell people what's going on.

[Felix]

I can't really get youtube videos to play lately, but my gosh I get some stupid questions. My favorite one is still when a sex partner asked if my leg hair was real.

[Keaira]

I can't really get youtube videos to play lately, but my gosh I get some stupid questions. My favorite one is still when a sex partner asked if my leg hair was real.

"No my dear, It's not really my leg hair. It's just trimmed pubic hair I stuck to my body with bondo and super glue."

I often get "So, are you going to have it cut off?" to which I invariably reply "No, I'm going to have it turned inside out, and then I'm going to grow potatoes..."

It's funny, isn't it, how on the one hand, people ask such inappropriately personal questions (because they're curious/fascinated), and on the other hand, we volunteer such personal answers because we sometimes just really want to tell people what's going on.

It amazes me that these people think they have a right to ask these things.

This is my blog post that I send them to:

Why is this one question so important?
I feel it's time to address an important question. it's the one that's on everybody's mind. The one that keeps people up at night as they wonder about the answer.

The Question: Have you had 'The Surgery yet?'

I have been asked this question many times now.  Some of my friends and former friends have also been asked this about me.
My answer: No, my appendix is just fine.
Actually I'm very evasive in what I reveal in regards to what they want to know.  For one thing, I keep a very tight group of friends who actually know about my Sex Reassignment Surgery status. For another, There are people who have issues with my transition, refuse to even dignify me with the use of my name or correct pronouns. And I'm tired of basically being put on parade. Trust me, I know what is said about me behind my back and the looks I get. And 8 months of it has finally worn down my patience. For a transsexual, it is a very personal issue.  After all, most of us absolutely hate being born with the wrong body. We loath the genitals between our legs and so we seek medical help to correct this issue. So when you ask, "have you had SRS?" , That is like someone going up to you and asking "whats in your panties? a penis or a vagina? Can I see?"
So what if I told you straight out? If I said No, then my validity as a woman will still not exist in your eyes. If I said yes, then what? Suddenly everything is alright in the world?  Would I win the lottery?  Is there a special someone waiting to sweep my off my feet and make wild love to me? Hardly. But one thing is certain, asking someone that one, seemingly harmless question at work can be counted as sexual harassment. And since so many people have a problem with me even existing in their workplace, I've stopped being so open about my life. Let's face it, Knowing what's inside my pants isn't going to end world hunger, fend off an alien invasion or even help you sleep better at night. It's just an answer to the one question that cis-gendered people think they have the right to ask.

[caseyyy]

That's a good blog post, Keaira. I've taken much the same attitude towards my own transition lately; I just let people be confused. It's their problem if that's how they try to understand me as a person.

[Keaira]

That's a good blog post, Keaira. I've taken much the same attitude towards my own transition lately; I just let people be confused. It's their problem if that's how they try to understand me as a person.

Thank you. and yea, these people don't need to know. it just gives them more power over you because then you become a sudo-male/female in their eyes. Less than a man or woman.  I used to answer every question I got and explain things, but it just seemed to make a personal matter seem impersonal. I was beginning to feel like a social experiment or a slab of meat they poked and prodded at. And no matter how polite I was there were people who just would not open their minds.

[kelly_aus]

When I've been asked that question by people, my response is to ask, 'Have you had a lobotomy?'

[V M]

When I've been asked that question by people, my response is to ask, 'Have you had a lobotomy?'

LOL... Good one Kelly 

It's bad enough some of the dumb, rude stuff some people say and ask to you, but it's even worse some of the smack they talk behind your back   
It can be vicious stuff

I have a neighbor who has been going about spreading ridiculous rumors about me    Luckily most folks know that he's full of stuffing

If someone is genuinely curious and trying to understand, I don't mind answering a few questions    But if they are just being jerks... Visions of
Vlad the Impaler come to mind