Why do I have to feel like I don't have the justification to transition?

[Katelyn]

It seems to me that the way I'd be judged by many transsexuals, as well as by my experience, transsexuals that think that "one must feel female in order to truly be transsexual", that I'd be best off associating with genderqueer / androgynous, inclusive LGBT gatherings, and open minded / inclusive groups (which is something I've been thinking of anyway.) 

[Korra]

My dysphoria isn't as bad as others seems to be, at least most days.  I'm also not suicidal, i don't "hate" my genitalia nor am i super depressed its just i think i would be happier as a woman and my life would improve from it.

[justmeinoz]

Nothing wrong with being Androgynous or Genderqueer.  Attending gatherings of members of the LGBTI community sounds like a great idea.  You may well find that is how you identify and can avoid the whole transition experience, with it's dramas and  costs.
It is likely that family and friends will give you less grief that way as well, which would make life a bit easier.  Being gay, genderqueer, or androgynous in appearance is far less "in your face" than changing sex in front of the ones you love. 
If you decide you are in fact transsexual, at least you will have explored a possible alternative, and won't have any doubts on that score.
As I have written before, and I don't claim any originality, be kind to yourself and don't judge yourself more harshly than you would your best friend.

Karen.

[caseyyy]

Nothing wrong with being Androgynous or Genderqueer.  Attending gatherings of members of the LGBTI community sounds like a great idea.  You may well find that is how you identify and can avoid the whole transition experience, with it's dramas and  costs.

Some androgyne/GQ people do still transition though. which can create a series of interesting conversations with family/friends.

[Katelyn]

Nothing wrong with being Androgynous or Genderqueer.  Attending gatherings of members of the LGBTI community sounds like a great idea.  You may well find that is how you identify and can avoid the whole transition experience, with it's dramas and  costs.
It is likely that family and friends will give you less grief that way as well, which would make life a bit easier.  Being gay, genderqueer, or androgynous in appearance is far less "in your face" than changing sex in front of the ones you love. 
If you decide you are in fact transsexual, at least you will have explored a possible alternative, and won't have any doubts on that score.
As I have written before, and I don't claim any originality, be kind to yourself and don't judge yourself more harshly than you would your best friend.

Karen.

I didn't say that I wanted to be, I said that I was thinking of associating with them.  I would rather not think of not transitioning, I get depressed and feel like my life is ruined.  Even if I was androgynous or GQ, it would be as a "compromise" and likely make me yearn more to transition anyway.

[Beth Andrea]

Katelyn, I think you need a hug...

*hugs*

Now, just relax. Let yourself be. Myself, I've never met any TS that was so obnoxious that they said "Hey Beth, you're not a real TS!"...they're a pretty casual group, on the whole.

*hugs*

[Bishounen]

Some androgyne/GQ people do still transition though. which can create a series of interesting conversations with family/friends.

Absolutely.
If, or perhaps rather, When, I one day have full SRS, I will identify as a Femboy or a Bishounen with a snatch, despite my Brain and Soul being feminine.
My Identity and Gender expressions do not have to change in any way only because I have a certain anatomy.

[NightWalker]

Hey Katelyn....if you don't mind me asking, do you have OCD? I am asking only because I suffer from OCD and have a lot of the same doubts you do. I am always doubting my validity as a trans person. It use to be a lot worse than it is now though....I have thankfully learned to just not care....literally not care rather I fit the narrative or not and just be myself.

In a lot of ways I don't fit the "classic narrative" either.

I didn't realize I was trans until I was 18....I also tend to be a bit on the androgynous side sometimes. But mostly I just identify as FTM.

Don't try to fit yourself into a box and don't worry so much about labels. Just be yourself. And this is coming from someone who use to struggle with this issue and sometimes I still do struggle with it. I have just learned to not get so wrapped up in labels. 

Now I just focus on being myself and not caring about the labels.