not willing to listen. rantish

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Ray,

Hopefully by the sounds of your recent posts, your parents may be coming round just a bit. I certainly hope it continues. As you are over 18 years of age, Australian Law considers you and adult, and as such, are not legally bound to your parents or guardian.

If not and your father or mother, or for that matter, any family member, threaten you with violence, physically hit you, or attempt to bring you back home by force or Police intervention; you by rights, can take out an AVO (Apprehended Violence Order - see definition below) against them, from your local court house

(AVO - definition. An injunction is an equitable remedy in the form of a court order that requires a party to to do or refrain from doing certain acts. A party that fails to comply with an injunction faces criminal or civil penalties and may have to pay damages or accept sanctions. In some cases, breaches of injunctions are considered serious criminal offences that merit arrest and possible prison sentences. A court may grant an AVO to a person who fears violence, harassment, abuse or stalking. A court may issue an AVO if it believes, on the balance of probabilities, that a person has reasonable grounds to fear personal violence, haressing conduct, molestation, intimidation or stalking. A defendant's non-compliance with the order may result in the imposition of a fine, imprisonment, or both.  Ref: Wikipedia.)

I tend to believe from your previous posts, you have adequate evidence to secure an AVO against your parents. In NSW, you cannot be involuntarily institutionalise without a court order, even then you have to sign the admission papers which includes a declaration stating that you are admitting yourself. If you live close to Sydney, the Gender Centre in Petersham (029569 2366) can assist you with Doctors, Therapists, Counselling, Housing and many other forms of assistance. If you live in another state, they will have similar Gender support organisations. Again the Gender Centre in Sydney can advise.

GID is a tough road at the best of times. The harassment you have experienced is totally uncalled for and unrealistic to be subjected to, on a daily basis.

I do hope you are able to make some good headway very soon, for your own health and wellbeing.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine 

[supremecatoverlord]

Your parents sound like the ones who are insane, not you.
I can only imagine how much in the middle of crisis you must feel.
I'm sorry.
This is terrible.
)x

[vik2ray]

Hey everyone whos been following this thread. And anyone new. Well heres how things are going.

1. Moved in with parents
2.got a stp from a freind, I owe him big time for that.
3. Have internet that isnt monitored.
4.parents have cut back on harassing me about things.
5. Have a mens satchel
6. My mates are calling me ray.
7. a few mates are waiting for me to transition so we can arm wrestle n work out together...ah the support...
8. Seeing my life in a different light.
9. Want to be a dad..
10.dreams are all with me as male bodied lets me sleep for 10 hours a night where I was previously on 10 minutes to an hour.
Oh and got my award at the ceremony for work. They printed one for mum with my hiven name and in the back they hid a copy with my preffered name on it. Ray..i got home and cried..its not normal to cry for me but seeing that on paper made my life soo bright for a moment.

Those where the good things now the not so good.
1. Havnt quit smoking
2. Had to give away dog and rats. Scorpian died
3. Mum drops hints to look more girly.
4.lost my gf because I wasnt paying attention and got caught up in my own world.
5. Playing games to pass time just to ignore the world and kill time. No motivation to be anything at the moment..just lost grip on reality.
6. Kind of want to stay in my dreams.
7. Getting irritated at the attention men give me. Wolf whistles are not cool when directed at me.
And last but not least..

As for moving..i am seeing how far I can push the parents because they still think its a phase but they have indulged me a little by buying me a unisex shirt its from a mens shop but it doesnt look too guyish. But just guyish enough. So maybe soon can just start openly buying boys clothes.. All my shower gels and deoderanta are mens and mum hasnt said a word. So far its in the ok region of life tolerable but at times irritating to live with the parents.

[Felix]

I'm very glad that your sleep has improved. Your family and life in general seem to be slightly chiller, which is good too. Still. Be careful.