Do You Attend A Support Group

[Brianna]

...young people don't deal with this stuff anymore?

We're too busy getting Xbox 360 achievment points.

But - seriously. I have noticed older TSs have a generally dark outlook on things related to transition. Like my last date. All my friends under 30 were happy for me, and all my friends over 30 thought I would be murdered.

Bri

[umop ap!sdn]

I've been regularly attending a group lately after a long absence. I've considered not going back, but often the discussions are on a subject I don't want to miss, and then I've made a few friends there so I tend to go just to see them.

some of whom have no problems loudly talking about crossdressing and transsexualism in a public place

!!!!!

That would have completely scared me off early in my transition. Now, I'm not sure.

[Kate]

We're too busy getting Xbox 360 achievment points.

Pout. I can't afford one, lol... still playing on the original

Come to think of it, I DID mention xbox once at my group... and got the "what the...?" stares back. Hmmm, maybe *I* can't relate to these Old People

But - seriously. I have noticed older TSs have a generally dark outlook on things related to transition.

Well sure, they/we usually have more tangible, obvious things to lose, more of an established life we're uprooting. It's pretty scary stuff.

On the other hand, I'm only potentially messing up the second half of my life. Even if it ended now, for whatever reason, I have the consolation that I pretty much did everything I set out to do this time - except for ONE THING.

I'd imagine it's pretty scary to be in your 20s and wondering if you're about to mess up your chances to even START a life, with a career, romantic partner, etc. On the other hand, the possibility of HAVING a long, full life as a female from almost the beginning... ooooo, wow, is that a nice thought

Kate

[Suzy]

But - seriously. I have noticed older TSs have a generally dark outlook on things related to transition.
Bri

This is what I've been trying to put my finger on.  The group I attended was of mixed age.  Those who were older (like me) had a sort of darkness to their personae that kind of turned me off.  I wanted to attend to help me feel better.  When it was over I felt worse.  Not sure exactly why.  But I think I could have done that on my own.  But maybe I should get to know them better before I throw in the towel.

Kristi

[katia]

ya, i do, american atheists. >

[KarenLyn]

...young people don't deal with this stuff anymore?

We're too busy getting Xbox 360 achievment points.

But - seriously. I have noticed older TSs have a generally dark outlook on things related to transition. Like my last date. All my friends under 30 were happy for me, and all my friends over 30 thought I would be murdered.

Bri

Well, I'm over 50 and I'm happy for you. I don't think you any more chance of being murdered than any other woman. I don't feel like I have a totally dark outlook on transition. I happen to enjoy being a woman. And I'd totally love to have an Xbox if I could afford the money and the time. So there   

Karen Lyn    

[Robyn]

My endo was said that I should be hanging out with more MtFs, but the youngest person in the group is like 30 and I can't relate with that at all.

OMG, and here I turn 70 in June.  I don't relate well with people in their 90s, either.

Don't worry, sweety; you'll be 30 and over the hill in no time.  Then you'll be wondering what in the world the twenty-somethings are talking about.

Granny Robyn,
who can still dance a lot of people under the table.

[Brianna]

My own motto when I am 40 will be to remember this one thing that drives me crazy.

WHEN SOMEONE YOUNGER IS TALKING ABOUT THEIR PERSPECTIVE, I WILL NOT TAKE IT AS AN INSULT.

Geez.

Bri

[Chaunte]

There is one either an hour away in one direction, or an hour twenty in the other.  Plus, it takes time away from seeing the kids.

I have attended a couple meetings of a transgender support group, but it seems more like a social club than anything else.

Chaunte

[Suzy]

Hey Anomie!

I don't think you offended anyone.  I just think it is more comfortable to hang with people of your own age.  Nothing wrong with that at all.  Then sometimes your friends end up being the ones you least expect.  So just keep an open mind and enjoy.  And yes, you definitely need to be where you feel comfortable.  Else why go?



Kristi

[Jillieann Rose]

I voted I do not have one near me.
But I did meet a leader for a CD group and she was transsexual. But she was a very weird and spooky person. One encounter was enough for me.

Jillieann

[Sharon S L]

I voted I do not have one near me. As the closest support group for me is about 1500km away in Adelaide, although I would like to try and start one here in Alice Springs but don't knew how to go about it.

Hugs Sharon

[InMyWrittenHeart]

I don't have one near me

[King Malachite]

None in my area.  Funny though I dreamed last night that I was in a support group.  As far as I'm concerned this is my support group.

[dmx]

I don't, never have and never will. I'm sure that most people who attend those things feel proud of their transsexualism or identify with it in some way, and I can't relate to those people. I think a support group would be counterproductive.

[JessicaH]

I really don't feel the need to. I have my BFF that I met here on Susans almost a year ago and she is all the support I need. I have a few other friends IRL that I have met through here but only after really getting to know each other online. I just can't spend to much of my life living and breathing trans stuff and I kinda feel burned out and overloaded with it now. I just want to transition to female (not M2T) and move on living life to it's fullest.

[Constance]

I attend the monthly Transgender Parents support group at the SF LGBT center.

[VoicesOfTheWind]

No but I wish I did

[King Malachite]

No but I wish I did

Same here