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Reminder of why I am stealth.

Started by McKitty, January 22, 2012, 03:22:44 PM

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Quote from: jdinatale on January 22, 2012, 06:46:12 PM
Lettuce be reality, you can be stealth if you want to, but you are gambling with your life. Not all men live in magical-Christmas-tree-land where everyone is accepting of you and your hobbies. Most men don't play around when it comes to their sexuality and masculinity. Anything that might threaten their manhood is the grounds for a beat down. I'm not saying that it's right, but it is the way the world works, and you need to learn that before you're the victim of a hate crime. Real talk.

But equally, not all men are homophobic bigots who will attack anything they view as somehow threatening their masculinity. It pays to think of all the possibilities rather than focusing on the negative. Focus on the negative and you will attract such situations and it will become your 'reality'. However, I can honestly say I've never had a negative experience, be it with dating or with friends, and even with religious people, most likely because I've got to a point where I've accepted myself and that convinces others to accept me. If people have had something to say against it, I haven't heard it, so if people want to drift away on their own accord, I won't stop them. Of course, I could have had more negativity, but I mostly know how to not put myself in those situations, and for the last five years I have succeeded in doing so. Of course, messing up or being surprised by a bad reaction is still entirely possible, as I am not somehow "immune" to bigotry, but there are ways to keeping that possibility low.
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Quote from: McKitty on January 22, 2012, 03:22:44 PM
Sometimes its the little things that remind me of why I have gone stealth. .... I tried to explain to her that my medical history is my business and well within my right to disclose when I feel is appropriate......It also reminded me that even someone who is your friend looks at you with a big "->-bleeped-<-" sign over your head no matter how past that you are.

Stick to your guns! FWIW, I agree and this is my policy as well.  Each person has to do what is right for themselves and not what fits into someone else's view of what is appropriate.

Besides, is she one of those who feels compelled to divulge every little detail of her life on a first date?  If so, I bet that she has very few second dates.
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