I need to tell them something

[Jace]

Somehow I was roped into GSA last year and this year I'm basically the leader. Today it was decided that I would be speaking at an event we have taking place in October. I don't know if anybody has heard of the Phelps or the Rainbow House, but I live in that town and the Rainbow House is partnering with us. The thing is, my parents have no idea I'm even in GSA. This might end up on our local tv or in the newspaper and I would hate for them to find out that way, but I'm afraid telling them will spark more questions and denial from the club. Nobody at my school knows I'm trans, I'm just a straight ally right now, even though I'm technically asexual but not many people know that either. I could just tell my parents that I disagree with them on gay marriage and I'm an ally or I could just get up the guts and tell them I'm trans which I will have to do eventually. Or I could just tell the counselor that I can't do it because of my situation but I would hate to do that. I feel as if I need to do this. Maybe getting my parents to be more open to to LGB stuff will make them more open to me be being transgender in the future.

[spacerace]

You said your club does not know you are trans yet? So what are you planning on speaking about at the event?

As I understand your post - you have these options:
1 - do a normal speech from the perspective of a straight ally - tell your parents you are a straight ally to warm them up for you coming out and to broach the subject

2- come out to your club, then would you speak about being trans? and then this would also require you to tell your parents?

3-do nothing and decline the speech

You could do this:

Do the speech from a general perspective, tell your parents that you are the leader of the club in case they see something about the speech, allowing you to see how they react. Before the speech, come out to your club to see how you feel about telling others, but don't mention being trans in the speech. Then - you can get ready to tell your parents in your own time.

[Jace]

I ended up telling my mom that I was going to be speaking at the event(it's a Q&A after we show the film Bully) and she was surprisingly supportive. I managed to leave out that I was in GSA but when I explained the event was about anti-bullying she was very happy and proud of me.