I can't remember the event either; it brings me to uncontrollable tears just thinking I might remember. And what would my life be like if I did? Could never bring the offender to justice for it? Had to live with the knowledge of what my Dad or Mom did to me? So often we talk of coping as a bad thing, something for the weak or mentally ill.
But it is the mind's way of surviving.Quote from: Beth Andrea on February 06, 2012, 06:52:33 AM
Ideally, one would want to integrate all/most of the pieces, but since the alters are fully-functioning "humans" (usually...) they may or may not want to be integrated...in which case, cooperation among them is the goal.
Healthy Multiplicity. This seems to be the happy place I have been able to get to with therapy, HRT, and giving my female self a day or two each week to live her life out and about in the world and my male self the rest. It is a badly needed break for him and she isn't strong enough to handle much more. My male and female self do not want to integrate. Each of them wants their own life and neither would give up the lifelong bond to be alone. Like any relationship, it comes down to cooperation, communication and compromise.
