How do you deal with it?
I've lost a lot of family - for mostly other reasons, but now I'm about to lose my sister because I don't think I can handle her transphobic remarks. We are like most siblings, we tease each other, try to get under each others skin.
Since starting T it's hard for me to cry, but the things she said today were so bad that I almost started to. I actually managed to get a few tears out only moments ago and that just tells me that this is a new low for her, because it's still hurting. I'm usually over it by now, but I can't do it. She tried to play the "you know I'm just trying to piss you off, these aren't my actual views card" but the damage has been done.
In my family it's rare to have anybody apologize for anything, in fact a friend had to teach me how, pretty sad right? So I know I'll never get one, I never have.
She refuses to call me by my name, or when she does she uses it like it's an insult. She does not view me as male, but as a female, possibly a lesbian, who likes to dress like a guy. She can honestly NEVER hold back on being racist/sexist-towards women/homophobic/transphobic to my face, like specifically to watch me go off or something. I just can't handle it anymore, it's becoming to much.
I'm lucky to have a mom who's being so accepting and supportive, even if she STILL does not get that I like guys. She honestly thought despite all my crushes on guys growing up that coming out as trans I'd switch to women. I told her I'm not straight and now she's more confused then ever. Still uses ambiguous terms about 'future partners' when we're talking. It's funny, but it gets annoying at times because I want her to recognize that I am gay, well bi-kinda, but lets not tell her that.
