Coming Out As Non Binary

[cindianna_jones]

Or, to rephrase the story in another way. You went shopping and bought some groceries.

Brilliant!

[wendy]

Or, to rephrase the story in another way. You went shopping and bought some groceries.

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall!

I would prefer a dozen uncracked eggs or a tee-bone steak tucked for free under my groceries.

Excuse me I need to fly around town and do a few more errands before sun gets too hot and melts wax on my wings.

[AbraCadabra]

You're right! I just get a little heated and my hackles go up at times! 

Hug :-) I know, those things can get up one's nose once in a while :-)

Axélle

[wendy]

Changing oil on car is just too much fun to eliminate with a gender modifications!  I have taught my daughters to go to quick oil change shops and get oil changed but when they are home I get to have honors.  Today Humpty Dumpty, Bird of Paradise, Diesel was positioned facing sky to change oil.  What I found is that oil plug had gasket sealer all over it.  A true Diesel would be suspicious.

Well oil change shop (do not know which one) stripped thread of steel oil pan and I had to chat with some mechanics to find a low cost fix. (Oil pan change at Toyota was $800.)  Young male mechanic at auto store was extremely helpful and I went to store manager to give young man a good word.  Even saw another Non-binary customer in auto store.  Guess one day we can fly in flocks.    Do keep oil off wings as it is a known carcinogenic in state of California.

[Anthropos]

I have been lucky in so many ways that my coming out as androgyne in my department at university was not a problem at all. Granted, it's the anthropology department, which at my school is probably the most accepting of such an identity. Still, my research advisor was absolutely wonderful and actually teaches a sex and gender class. Parents and friends were a bit more awkward, though. With my parents, I had initially come out as MtF, so coming out as genderqueer was probably a bit of a relief for them. Initially whenever I dressed with makeup, I would get a kind of "not this ->-bleeped-<- again" look from my Dad, but both of them accept it now. My two housemates, though, were not so accepting, so I'm living at home until August when I'll be moving into my own private place.

[suzifrommd]

Fortunately I am not responsible for anyone else's feelings or how they perceive me, it's their problem and I let them deal with it.

Oh Shantel, I envy you so much. I'm all about not making the people around me feel uncomfortable. Not by choice, but I seem to be wired that way. I'm a schoolteacher and I find it hard enough to teach my students what I want them to learn without throwing in the distraction of displaying my inner gender termoil on the surface. And our principal is such a traditionalist. I don't fear discrimination, per se, just that when I bring up a problem or need help from an administrator, things would go more smoothly if I weren't seen, in his eyes at least, as some kind of a nut.

[Shantel]

Oh Shantel, I envy you so much. I'm all about not making the people around me feel uncomfortable. Not by choice, but I seem to be wired that way. I'm a schoolteacher and I find it hard enough to teach my students what I want them to learn without throwing in the distraction of displaying my inner gender termoil on the surface. And our principal is such a traditionalist. I don't fear discrimination, per se, just that when I bring up a problem or need help from an administrator, things would go more smoothly if I weren't seen, in his eyes at least, as some kind of a nut.

It's natural to want to please others and to be accepted and even loved unconditionally by others, so it was something I had to work at, and as Axélle-Michélle had pointed out earlier, it's not always the best attitude to assume.

A friend who is native American was being treated poorly by another person and it appeared to me that it was because of his ethnicity. I had become incensed by it and told him how I felt he was being treated. By the way, this man has a masters degree and isn't just some poor lackey. He told me not to be concerned because it was the other person's problem and he was going to allow him to continue to be obnoxious and learn to deal with it until  he begins to see himself as the jerk he is being. It was a learning moment for me, he was correct. We don't have to take it on our shoulders when others misbehave.