Gender change: Losing him, loving her
BY DIANE DANIEL - Correspondent
http://www.newsobserver.com/2012/02/12/1844950/losing-him-loving-her.htmlEvery January, my spouse of seven years and I make separate lists of our previous year's accomplishments and joys, our disappointments and sorrows. We have to force ourselves to sit down in our living room in Durham and put thoughts to paper, but once we get going, the reflection invigorates us. The positive items are like little gifts to ourselves, and the others we try to learn from.
A year ago, my good stuff from 2010 took up an entire page, as it usually does, but one sorrow loomed large. I noted it as "Lost Wessel." This year I was relieved to head my list with this 2011 joy: "Embraced Lina."
The two are intricately connected. Wessel and Lina are the same, yet different. Fourteen months ago, my husband became my wife.
