Mis-read as a trans woman (uh...what?)

[Nygeel]

This is something that's happened a few times in situations where I have described myself as a trans man or FtM. I guess people over look it, see the "Trans" part and assume "trans woman" or "Crossdresser." It's always weird when it happens. Is this just me, or do other people here have similar experiences?

[Kyyn]

That's pretty normal in my city.
Trans are accepted for the most part but are always depicted as transwomen. The concept of transmen hasn't really caught on yet.  If u aren't passable as a male, you're just assumed as a lesbian

[lilacwoman]

call yourself a transsexual as people understand that...saying tman just confuses them.

[Squirrel698]

Yeah that happens to me on occasion especially when putting up personal adds and like that.  On Craigslist is always some idiot asking for transgendered women, crossdressers, mtf or ftm.  One of those is the opposite of the others but they honestly don't seem to grasp that concept. 

It is frustrating but in some ways it's good that we are so invisible to the public eye.  Why do I look at Craigslist?  It amuses me, that's why. 

[Joeyboo~ :3]

I've been misread as a transman a lot when I barely started transitioning and told people I was trans.
I guess people here are aware that ftms exist.

[JenJen2011]

I've never been misread as a transman, thank goodness. But I have been read as a man before, lol.

[Padma]

I get this a lot, because I present as pretty androgynous (read: not remotely conventionally feminine) - I tell people I'm going through a gender transition, and they often say "Erm... which way?" to which I usually reply "Do the maths - how many 6'3" women with feet this big do you know, anyway?"

I choose to find it flattering, because if they're looking at me and assuming I started out as a woman, I'm doing something right .

[Kelly J. P.]

 When I reveal that I'm trans, it appears that half the time, people think I want to become a man.

Like others, I take it as a compliment - that they think that I look like I was born female. They also mention, at times, that my personality seems too feminine to have been male. Guess it shows you what people think being trans is in this part of the world... but at least BC has a little awareness.

Most of the time, being read as MTF/FTM when you're not is a way of knowing that you look cis in your target sex. It could be a lot worse

[Natkat]

call yourself a transsexual as people understand that...saying tman just confuses them.

dosent help for me whatever I say transexual, transgender ftm or transguy.

yes got it alot of time, being a femenine guy people think I want to be a girl or would pass perfectly for a girl LOL..
I even got coments like "how can you be trans if your dont want to dress up as a girl?"
and stuff like that..

most annoying problem is when people flirt with me cause they think im mtf.. -__-

[Nygeel]

In these situations I always say I'm a trans man. I was told by a few people that I have perfect bone structure and that all I needed was a little hair and make up.

That's kind of where somebody sounds the fail horn.

[Keaira]

Before HRT I was Mis-gendered as a transman if I told someone I was trans. I guess it was because of my voice and short stature. and given that the majority of MtF's are tall I didn't fit the normal profile for one. lol.

[he who shall not be named]

Once a trans woman asked me if I was a trans woman, too. :D This was before I had really admitted to myself that I was trans, and at the time it actually made me really happy. clue #937181 :P

[Leek]

Back before I changed my ID photo, I used to hang out with these two friends of mine a lot when they lived in a gated community where a security guy would always take your information before you went through.

Usually, no one said anything. But once:

"Sir, is this your license?"
"Er...eh...I'm transsexual."
"Oh...Oh, I'm sorry!" *jots info down, hands me back my license* "Have a nice day, Ma'am!."

It wouldn't have been as weird if it weren't for the fact that I had a full beard coming in at the time. I must have been a REALLY lazy transwoman.

[emil]

Actually, that's pretty much just a big pass
When someone who met me as male notices I have a strong opinion regarding transgender issues, they start asking if i'd rather be a woman...
So when someone puts you the wrong way round, they have no doubts you're cis.

[anibioman]

i pass very well as a guy and when i went to a doc and was talking about being trans he didnt know i was an ftm he thought i was a mtf

[Silas]

Back before I changed my ID photo, I used to hang out with these two friends of mine a lot when they lived in a gated community where a security guy would always take your information before you went through.

Usually, no one said anything. But once:

"Sir, is this your license?"
"Er...eh...I'm transsexual."
"Oh...Oh, I'm sorry!" *jots info down, hands me back my license* "Have a nice day, Ma'am!."

It wouldn't have been as weird if it weren't for the fact that I had a full beard coming in at the time. I must have been a REALLY lazy transwoman.

Pffft.
He sounds the polite type. 

I've never been mistaken as a translady, though when people see old pictures of me in a dress with long hair they ask how on earth I got my very Baptist mother to let her son have his little drag queen escapades.

[Andris]

most annoying problem is when people flirt with me cause they think im mtf.. -__-

Same!
And even...

Just a little story if you let me... :/ I'm online on some old Hungarian LGBT site (forums and ads) , which's been full of perverts and seeking-for-a-nite people recently. (Years ago it was much much better.)
I have no profile pics at all but my nick of my new boy name, age (19) and some title "transgender man". Then some basic data, like: height and body shape (thin), hair length and color, being single, I rarely drink and smoke occasionally. Who I want for what? TS men/women, cismen/-women - friendship, penfriend, hiking together. Text: "long-term relationship only with girls or deep girlish soul, after-inside friendship"
Only bi-curious (or whatever), married 50+ men wrote, all living in the closet - that they're craving for a picture of me. One of them added he wants to taste my [insert a cute adjective] penis (?!), another even asked me to upload a photo in which I'm wearing satin sockings, lace and... Third was quick and short: "have sex? love ->-bleeped-<-s"... Surely. OMG.
(Answered back that "all right but you're a d...head, right? you have only one pic, starring your d..." )

Miserable! Kind of.
I'm a young, slim bisexual/gay cisguy for 'em - with secret fetish-->-bleeped-<- attitude.
Erm. Damn. :|

[N.Chaos]

When I was younger, before I was out, I was told on multiple occasions that I looked like a bad drag queen, and ->-bleeped-<-, and a "fat ->-bleeped-<- in makeup".

[Julian]

I had posted a vague excited status update on Facebook about top surgery awhile back, and one of my friends messaged me asking what I was excited about. I said something like "well, I'm transgender, and I'm having surgery soon." She uses very feminine nicknames for her female friends, and she kept calling me "lady" after that. After I signed off it hit me that she probably thought I was a trans woman. xD