Yesterday was my birthday

[xXRebeccaXx]

and I was spit on, disrespected, cursed out, jumped, and I spend the evening with my transphobic mom becuase no one cared enough to actually do anything for me.

[xXRebeccaXx]

Guess no one cares about me on susans anymore either.

[MyKa]

Happy belated birthday!!!!!! Sorry to hear the bad news!

[Catherine Sarah]

Hey Hun,
We care. So sorry to hear you had a less than prefect day.
I hope in some small way, you were able to celebrate it with yourself at least.

The world can be a harsh place at times. And lots of these things are placed in our way, just to test our resolve.

I know some days I have at work, at the end of it, I think to myself I'm just so lucky to come out of that day alive. I then worry about what can and can't be salvaged out of the devastation and slowly move on.

But yeah!! Your day didn't sound too crash hot. Take yourself out for a treat and celebrate it. You deserve it.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

P.S. Don't worry too much by the lack of replies so far. I think someone may be sitting on the server and squashing it. It's running painfully slow this side of the 'creek', today.

[Erin H]

sorry to hear what happened, but stay strong and we are here for you if you need help

and happy birthday for yesterday

[Constance]

I just logged in now and saw your post.

I'm sorry to hear that your birthday was as so bad. I've had lousy birthdays before, but nothing like that.

Happy belated birthday, and I hope that your future holds happier days.

[Steffi]

Happy Birthday to you, if a little belated.
Sad that you had a grim day and that it was so badly timed.
Best wishes for a brighter future

xxx

[Devlyn]

Belated birthday wishes! Today will be better! Hugs, Devlyn

[spacial]

We care a lot about you xXRebeccaXx.

You've been ground down lately, presumably by your mom and others, from what you said.

Few can cope properly with that.

[Bexi]

Happy Belated Birthday!

Sorry to hear you're going through a really really difficult time. Some people can grow aggressive at what they don't, or refuse to, understand. Every day won't be this sucky. Gradually those same nay-sayers will either change their opinions, or you may come to accept that they are having a negative influence on your life, and in that case, why should they deserve any of your time?

But just remain positive - transistioning is a long arduous journey, but by the end of it, you will find happiness 

x

[tekla]

I spend the evening with my transphobic mom becuase no one cared enough to actually do anything for me.

Nah, you spent the evening with your transphobic mom because you wouldn't do it on your own.

When I talk with people one of the things that almost always gets asked is: 'How did you do all that stuff?'  And the answer is pretty simple, I didn't wait for anyone else to join me.  Hell, I'd put out invitations, ask people, sometimes even beg - but most of the time they didn't want to go, or do whatever it was that I wanted.  So I did it myself. 

In 1979 the New Orleans police went on strike right before Mardi Gras.  I thought "this ought to be awesome - epic level party".  Everyone else said I was crazy and declined to go.  They didn't want to go without police.  I told them that the National Guard would be there, and it would be physically safe - and it was, the NG enforced crimes against people and property, but enforced no morality laws, no drug laws, and it turned out to be as close to a real Bacchanalia as I'll ever get.   Ask the natives now and they will tell you that the 1979 Mardi Gras was really the last truly debauched and decadent Mardi Gras - if not the best Mardi Gras ever.  As soon as I got back everyone was going - 'awe we should have went'.  Yeah, they should have.  Because some things in life happen only once.

I could say the same thing about the first Lady Gaga performance in SF.  I had a buddy of mine working on the show who told me to get down and see it.  Could I find anyone to go?  Nah.  Did they miss it big time?  Oh yeah.  (Ditto for going to see Morris Day and the Time, who's opening act was some kid named Prince - that in a 500 seat club.  Did they miss it big time.  Oh yeah.)

If you friends won't celebrate with you, go out, celebrate and make new friends.

[King Malachite]

Happy Birthday!  I'm sorry your birthday didn't turn out as good as you wanted to but like Catherine said, enjoy it and treat yourself.

[Sweet Blue Girl]

Happy birthday, and don't care too much for the ->-bleeped-<- times. They just happens! But i assure you wonderfoul times arejust ahead if you keep fighting!

[xXRebeccaXx]

I spend the evening with my transphobic mom becuase no one cared enough to actually do anything for me.

Nah, you spent the evening with your transphobic mom because you wouldn't do it on your own.

When I talk with people one of the things that almost always gets asked is: 'How did you do all that stuff?'  And the answer is pretty simple, I didn't wait for anyone else to join me.  Hell, I'd put out invitations, ask people, sometimes even beg - but most of the time they didn't want to go, or do whatever it was that I wanted.  So I did it myself. 

In 1979 the New Orleans police went on strike right before Mardi Gras.  I thought "this ought to be awesome - epic level party".  Everyone else said I was crazy and declined to go.  They didn't want to go without police.  I told them that the National Guard would be there, and it would be physically safe - and it was, the NG enforced crimes against people and property, but enforced no morality laws, no drug laws, and it turned out to be as close to a real Bacchanalia as I'll ever get.   Ask the natives now and they will tell you that the 1979 Mardi Gras was really the last truly debauched and decadent Mardi Gras - if not the best Mardi Gras ever.  As soon as I got back everyone was going - 'awe we should have went'.  Yeah, they should have.  Because some things in life happen only once.

I could say the same thing about the first Lady Gaga performance in SF.  I had a buddy of mine working on the show who told me to get down and see it.  Could I find anyone to go?  Nah.  Did they miss it big time?  Oh yeah.  (Ditto for going to see Morris Day and the Time, who's opening act was some kid named Prince - that in a 500 seat club.  Did they miss it big time.  Oh yeah.)

If you friends won't celebrate with you, go out, celebrate and make new friends.

I have aspergers syndrome, I cant make new friends.

[Torn1990]

I spend the evening with my transphobic mom becuase no one cared enough to actually do anything for me.

Nah, you spent the evening with your transphobic mom because you wouldn't do it on your own.

When I talk with people one of the things that almost always gets asked is: 'How did you do all that stuff?'  And the answer is pretty simple, I didn't wait for anyone else to join me.  Hell, I'd put out invitations, ask people, sometimes even beg - but most of the time they didn't want to go, or do whatever it was that I wanted.  So I did it myself. 

In 1979 the New Orleans police went on strike right before Mardi Gras.  I thought "this ought to be awesome - epic level party".  Everyone else said I was crazy and declined to go.  They didn't want to go without police.  I told them that the National Guard would be there, and it would be physically safe - and it was, the NG enforced crimes against people and property, but enforced no morality laws, no drug laws, and it turned out to be as close to a real Bacchanalia as I'll ever get.   Ask the natives now and they will tell you that the 1979 Mardi Gras was really the last truly debauched and decadent Mardi Gras - if not the best Mardi Gras ever.  As soon as I got back everyone was going - 'awe we should have went'.  Yeah, they should have.  Because some things in life happen only once.

I could say the same thing about the first Lady Gaga performance in SF.  I had a buddy of mine working on the show who told me to get down and see it.  Could I find anyone to go?  Nah.  Did they miss it big time?  Oh yeah.  (Ditto for going to see Morris Day and the Time, who's opening act was some kid named Prince - that in a 500 seat club.  Did they miss it big time.  Oh yeah.)

If you friends won't celebrate with you, go out, celebrate and make new friends.

This.
You got to go create the fun for yourself.
I've gone to tons of events, and even clubs alone just so i wasn't spending my time at home, lonely and miserable. And i go out   to have a good time. Not with expectations that might disappoint me. That's important.
It all can be a mind set if you make it one. Make life memorable.
Though please! you were jumped and spat on? By who and why?!

[Kim 526]

Rebecca,

Having Aspergers is not easy. My 18 year old son has it. He has many acquaintances but has not had a real friend all his life. He tries to be a joiner. He is in the school band, running club, and just joined the gay-straight alliance. Aspergers comes in varying degrees so I can't speak to your experience. And being trans on top of it must make it even harder for you.

My son is lucky, he has both a psychiatrist and a therapist. Between them he is able to get his feelings sorted out and get the meds he needs.

His life has improved over the past 5 years and we think it will continue to improve. I hope you have the resources you need to help you with both the Aspergers and your gender issues.

Sounds like your birthday sucked. I hope you never have another bad day and all your good dreams come true. Things will get better. Stay positive; thoughts become things.

Hugs,
Kim

[xXRebeccaXx]

Rebecca,

Having Aspergers is not easy. My 18 year old son has it. He has many acquaintances but has not had a real friend all his life. He tries to be a joiner. He is in the school band, running club, and just joined the gay-straight alliance. Aspergers comes in varying degrees so I can't speak to your experience. And being trans on top of it must make it even harder for you.

My son is lucky, he has both a psychiatrist and a therapist. Between them he is able to get his feelings sorted out and get the meds he needs.

His life has improved over the past 5 years and we think it will continue to improve. I hope you have the resources you need to help you with both the Aspergers and your gender issues.

Sounds like your birthday sucked. I hope you never have another bad day and all your good dreams come true. Things will get better. Stay positive; thoughts become things.

Hugs,
Kim

I dont have either right now.

[veritatemfurto]

and I was spit on, disrespected, cursed out, jumped, and I spend the evening with my transphobic mom becuase no one cared enough to actually do anything for me.

Been there, Girl. almost all of my 6th and 7th grade life was like that.

Guess no one cares about me on susans anymore either.

That's what I thought of my first week here, lots of typing, not many responses. (but thanks to the ones that did, appreciate the welcome)...I'm over it... If I knew I was near your location, I'd say "screw this lets go have some fun and go get wasted."

I have aspergers syndrome, I cant make new friends.

maybe, but sometimes you don't have to try for it to happen... been having a "Friends Wanted" sign hanging for years.... PM anytime

[Cindy]

Oh dear

I'm sorry I missed it.

But as they say in the movies, better late than never


Sorry darling. There are ->-bleeped-<-s everywhere and we sure know how to meet them at times.

So, get to the good stuff.

What was the birthday? What are the years plans?  How are we going to be having fun, at home and with Susie's Crowd?

Tell us more?

Keep joining in darling, I know you do some great posts, you have an awful lot to offer and you are in Cindy's black book of nice members (CBBNM), whoops people will think we are part of FoxTel.
In fact I'm Rupert's secret love TG child but don't let his newspaper know.

Love and Kisses and I do care about you

Hugs

Cindy

Cindy

[Atomic Kitten]

Hello Rebecca

Happy Birthday Rebecca.
I understand your sorrow ,all my life I have never had a birthday party or any Birthday cards.
But we will be happy one day,just try to be strong and your day will come.
Happy Birthday Rebecca.

Atomic Kitten