Scared to take the next steps because of parents.

[aniya]

So I've been breaking my own head and stressing out about the fact that I am transsexual. Have an appointment with a gender therapist soon, but I'm kid of scared to take the next step due to the fact that my parents won't approve. My parents mean the world to me, they learned to cope with the fact that I was gay, so I learned to embrace them.

Anybody else had a difficult time telling their parents? What was the outcome?

[Devlyn]

I hope I'm not missing something here, but it seems like it would be as easy as just telling them "I've discovered I'm transgendered." The open and honest route worked before, right? Best of luck, hugs, Devlyn

[spacial]

I can see what Devlyn is getting at as well.

But the next step is what makes you comfortable. Though you should be able to work most of this out with your therapist.

Good luck.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi aniya,
Hey, it's OK. you've got good parents. tell them you appreciate their love and caring, by word, gesture, roses, whatever works. That should deepen the communications channel even further for you to let them in to your innermost feelings. They probably already know, and are waiting for you to affirm it by bringing them into your circle of relationship. Parents tend to have this sixth sense about them. Sometimes, they know before you do.

Your therapist may be able to suggest a few methods of how to do this as well.

Take the pressure off yourself, and just know they love you.

Let us know how you are coping. Best of luck  (Labouring Under Correct Knowledge)

Be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

[ByeBye]

♥ Sometimes we trans girls have parents who threaten to make our lives hell. They need to understand. ♥

[rachl]

Surely the next step is the therapist? That is no big deal - it is just a chat with someone. I think you are worrying about what happens after therapy but that is something to discuss and decide during therapy. Do not worry too far ahead, this is not a quick process.

Beverley

Definitely agree. Just start with the therapist. Telling your parents doesn't have to come soon, and this is something with which the therapist will be extremely helpful. You may be surprised by the confidence you end up with.

I'm in a similar boat (though I never came out to my parents as gay, since I'm not, though I struggled with the possibility). I've had my first counselling session (which went amazing!), which gave me the courage to come out to some friends, but not yet to my parents. That's partly because they live in a different part of the country, and I have to decide whether to write a letter or call them, or wait until they visit in June. I don't know what to do. BUT, I'm in no hurry: I plan to raise this question with the counsellor at my next visit! There's no rush to tell them, but I will.

[Gretchen]

I may not have enough information here but if your parents are OK with the fact that you are supposedly gay they may be more at ease with the fact that you are really heterosexual and the whole gay thing was just an illusion brought about by a hideous birth defect that can be fixed through surgeries therefore making you clearly a heterosexual.