Quote from: ChrissyRyan on June 03, 2024, 07:05:12 AMHow much longer do you think that you can you pretend to be a male if you are a MTF woman? Is it becoming harder to be in any situation where it "makes sense" to be thought of as a man? Does it hurt emotionally at times to have to go through with this nonsense?
For those of you who have yet to transition, this may be an ongoing all the time angst.
For those of us who have been transitioning for a long time but who have not fully transitioned, these can be very uncomfortable situations.
Even after you have come out to everyone important to you, it is disheartening to have to put up this false front at times when you want to avoid what you think may be a potentially uncomfortable situation for some others or for yourself.
There will come a point in time you will not care what they think or experience. Until you do, you may have these uncomfortable moments. Do you still pretend to be male, and why?
Chrissy
I think people can pretend as long as they need to. In my time here... it's been my experience that you have two kinds of people. You have people who don't care about themselves, and people who do care about themselves.
People who don't care about themselves... they are people pleasers. They have so little self-value that they only care about how other people see them. If someone else is happy with you, you're happy with yourself. They base their whole self-identity on the mirror of those around them. I suspect because their own self-belief isn't strong enough to do anything else. These kinds of people don't really feel strongly one way or the other. They only care about what other people feel about them. Because they have very little individual self-belief.
You can see this online in most spaces. People sacrifice their self worth for adoration. It's kind of sad.
QuoteEven after you have come out to everyone important to you, it is disheartening to have to put up this false front at times when you want to avoid what you think may be a potentially uncomfortable situation for some others or for yourself.
It's only uncomfortable for other people, IMO. And to be fair they can probably see through this false front. Because people aren't stupid. It's only uncomfortable for you if you want to make it uncomfortable for you. Trying to say things without saying them.. trying to be someone you, and the people around you know you are but no one wants to admit to... that's the most painful part of this whole deal. Elephants don't go away because you don't want to acknowledge them in the room. They are still there... eatin' all yo peanuts!"
