Tips for female delicacy add your own

[mixie]

Ok well I thought I'd start a thread about gestures and whatnot since I've seen some posters saying that they are clocked in real life, even though to me the pix look totally female.  I imagine there's something to do with being not presenting physically.

DISCLAIMER  This thread is not intended to insult anyone or suggest a "way to be" or to tell people how to "act female" etc etc etc.

I just thought it might be helpful.   I have many "masculine" types of gestures,  one that got weird for a while was this jerky movement I used to do when I was smoking to yank my arm forward away from my coat when I was outside smoking.  It looked a lot like a carnival worker getting ready to deal another hand of cards.  Very unbecoming.  So I paid a bit of attention and stopped doing it.

I also wonder how it must be when a female body has a different center of gravity than a male body.  So it might be hard to shift that.  Do hormones help with this?  I have no idea.


But two that I thought would be helpful involve being aware of the bones in your wrist and chest  the clavical notch right at the top of the rib cage.  My mother told me years ago that the way to walk with good posture was to pretend a fishing line was pulling you along from the ceiling that was attached to this part of your body.  It does make a big difference in how you walk and carry yourself.  Of course now I hulk along like a creature in Star Wars because I'm lazy.  But I thought it might be helpful as a consideration.

The other thing I used to do to remind myself that I am graceful and delicate even though I am very large, is to look at my wrists.  I have very small wrists and so the bones in my wrist remind me that even though I'm tall  I do have graceful parts of my body,  and so I'd wear bracelets as my only form of jewelry to remind me.

Lips are something that I notice are luscious and beautiful on many of the women I see on here.  Lucky lucky you.  If you have nice lips enjoy them and show them off. 

Ok I'll be thinking.  I hope people add theirs.

[Joeyboo~ :3]

Nice tip on walking

Unfortunately, I do a lot of campy wrist motions though when I speak. ._.
My hands just limp and swing around as I talk with my arms.

And sometimes when I stand or walk when I'm zoned out I have my hands positioned like Roger from American Dad(only example I knew haha.)

[Gretchen]

It looked a lot like a carnival worker getting ready to deal another hand of cards.  Very unbecoming.  So I paid a bit of attention and stopped doing it.

Carnies are awesome, when I was thirteen I got to work at the carnival for a week and it was so cool.

Since I am a woman I never really have to pass myself off as one, but like you said about having good posture, that's a big one.

[rachl]

An easy one is how to stand. Women have shape to them. Weight is on one foot more than the other, the hips are off to one side or slightly elevated on one side, the shoulders aren't always parallel to the ground, etc.

Another is to keep elbows in while walking and gesturing or doing things like drinking from a water bottle etc.

[Beth Andrea]

(Note to whoever: Did the "reply to" screen change? I don't have any bold/italic/quote etc buttons, no smilies...)

On to the reply, fully manual effort:

I have many "masculine" types of gestures,  one that got weird for a while was this jerky movement I used to do when I was smoking to yank my arm forward away from my coat when I was outside smoking.  It looked a lot like a carnival worker getting ready to deal another hand of cards.  Very unbecoming.

Funny you mention this now...last night I went outside and saw my wife smoking...that's how she removes the cig from her mouth...

My first thought was, "She looks like a man when she does that; almost like a biker-chick/"tough guy" woman."

On posture: I read somewhere that when one is sitting, imagine your neck being in a noose, pulled slightly toward the ceiling. Pulling your head upwards changes the angle of the shoulders and removes any slouching that may have been present. Slouching is certainly one of the worst things to do, male or female...but I notice it more on guys. (I've seen some guys with slouching really bad--when the chin is just forward of the breastbone, and the ears are about shoulder height... )

[Sweet Blue Girl]

Ok well I thought I'd start a thread about gestures and whatnot since I've seen some posters saying that they are clocked in real life, even though to me the pix look totally female.  I imagine there's something to do with being not presenting physically.

DISCLAIMER  This thread is not intended to insult anyone or suggest a "way to be" or to tell people how to "act female" etc etc etc.

I just thought it might be helpful.   I have many "masculine" types of gestures,  one that got weird for a while was this jerky movement I used to do when I was smoking to yank my arm forward away from my coat when I was outside smoking.  It looked a lot like a carnival worker getting ready to deal another hand of cards.  Very unbecoming.  So I paid a bit of attention and stopped doing it.

I also wonder how it must be when a female body has a different center of gravity than a male body.  So it might be hard to shift that.  Do hormones help with this?  I have no idea.


But two that I thought would be helpful involve being aware of the bones in your wrist and chest  the clavical notch right at the top of the rib cage.  My mother told me years ago that the way to walk with good posture was to pretend a fishing line was pulling you along from the ceiling that was attached to this part of your body.  It does make a big difference in how you walk and carry yourself.  Of course now I hulk along like a creature in Star Wars because I'm lazy.  But I thought it might be helpful as a consideration.

The other thing I used to do to remind myself that I am graceful and delicate even though I am very large, is to look at my wrists.  I have very small wrists and so the bones in my wrist remind me that even though I'm tall  I do have graceful parts of my body,  and so I'd wear bracelets as my only form of jewelry to remind me.

Lips are something that I notice are luscious and beautiful on many of the women I see on here.  Lucky lucky you.  If you have nice lips enjoy them and show them off. 

Ok I'll be thinking.  I hope people add theirs.

Mixie you look absolutely gorgeous... Wish I was like you!!!
Anyway I notice my posture is more femminine, sometimes when  I simply allow myself to be more natural. By the way i ampretty too much shy, and I move like a frozen rabbit.

[mixie]

Beth Andrea I'm so glad someone knows what I mean.  LOL   Beverly that's interesting I'm a horrible nail biter, so that probably has a lot to do with me not having feminine hand movements.  Never thought of that.

[Steffi]

Here's a link I found ages ago to an adjustable animation of walking which shows a range of movement speeds etc over a range from Masculine to Feminine.  It looks better if you enable the lines for the stick figure.
I found it really interesting/useful

http://www.biomotionlab.ca/Demos/BMLwalker.html

[rachl]

Neat!

[Torn1990]

Since I am a woman I never really have to pass myself off as one,

This.

And mixie:
THANKS FOR THE DISCLAIMER. I think that's important to realize when we gain advice from cis folks..

Painting my nails and wearing rings, or bracelets really help bring out natural feminine movements in my opinion because they make me feel graceful. I guess for those who want to come off as such,  I like that tip.
Though I enjoy having a masculine edge to my performance, I really have been thinking about it alot.

my tip: confidence in who you are. i like to get up every morning like a psycho and do some self-affirming in the mirror. Confidence is so important, and it's hard to have when we're constantly trying to not be clockable, it's kind of ridics when you think about it.
So being yourself no matter how much jewelry that is applied is important. Wear it, don't let it wear you.  I guess?