TRANSformative Loves
February 27, 2012
Bamby Salcedo
http://xqsimagazine.com/2012/02/27/transformative-loves/I once had the good fortune to discover a relationship with a man who was my partner for many years. His name was Bobby. I will not say it was a fairy tale relationship, since, unfortunately, there was no happy ending. Bobby died in June 2010. However, during the whole time I was at his side, Bobby gave me the respect that I deserved as the woman that I am.
We had our criticisms, judgements, bad times and even encounters with people who did not understand or could not accept our relationship. But none of this took away from Bobby the privilege loving me and discovering who I am as a person. Bobby wouldn't hide. Instead, he was proud to have a woman like me as his partner, and that in return would fill me with pride and made me love him more.
The relationship between a cisgender man and a transgender woman is a very special kind of love. And though the experiences are different for different trans women, we often encounter an important question: Why can't a man who is attracted to a transgender woman can admit to it and perhaps find a feeling of true love with her?
