I saw my gynecologist yesterday. I've been sick and so haven't had sex in like a month, but the last time was with a sketchy guy. At some point he took the condom off, and I realized but only after significant unprotected contact. Stupid sleazy entitled bastard.
So. Between the creeping anxiety about that and the fact that my foot has been infected for weeks AND OMG I'M GOING TO DIE OF AIDS, I decided to call the genitalia doctor. The office staff asked my name and I simply spelled my former last name, not knowing what was actually in the computer. They were cool, said oh hi Felix what's the problem. I said I had unprotected sex with a stranger and need to make sure I don't have an STD or HIV. They offered me an appointment the following morning.
I went in the next day, and the office staff were happy to see me. I do think there's an element of they like me because I make their job more interesting, but I'm not offended by that. They're pretty respectful. They called me by my right name, and nobody else in the waiting room looked up or seemed to really notice me. I should mention I was also carrying a large toy alligator because I had to pick up my daughter later. People in gynecology lobbies tend to have things on their mind.
I saw the doctor, and she seemed a tad trepidatious and not sure how to address the situation at first. She visibly relaxed and became efficient when I was straightforward and rational about what my fears were and what I needed. She answered my questions and treated me like a normal person. When it came time for the pelvic exam she was careful, explaining what she was going to do and making sure I was okay with the different steps and aspects of it. She followed my lead on terminology.
This lady is not used to having male patients. She was recommended to me by another ftm, but it's clearly new to her. She slipped up on gendering once - I mentioned menopause and hot flashes, and she asked if that happens to other women who take testosterone. All I said was "um" and she was quick to apologize and correct herself. I'm willing to cut a vagina doctor a lot more slack than other people, honestly, and this lady has only screwed up that one time in the three times she's seen me.
I was happy with the fact that she didn't let her professional curiosity affect the exam. She didn't react to or ask questions about my clit at all, and limited all transition related questions to what was relevant to my health. Her morals didn't affect the exam either. I got no questions about drug use (which a lot of people associate with nonmonogamy) and no lectures of any sort. She takes me at my word that I know how to use and usually do use condoms. The whole visit was quick and easy.
All in all, least unpleasant gyno appointment I've ever had. Not what I expected considering the reason I saw her.
