Many ways lead to self-discovery. You can analyze your dreams. Dreams don't lie. When the body is tired and goes to sleep, the soul processes events, emotions and thoughts of the previous day(s). Dreams are symbolic representations of what is going on in your inner self. Every evening before going to bed program yourself with the following: "When I wake up I will remember every dream in every detail." Gradually you will be able to remember more and more dreams, up to seven or eight dreams or more. Every time you wake up write down the dream on a piece of paper next to the bed. Later in the day, write down all your dreams in a journal, with a explanation or comment. You will soon notice that you will not like some of the dreams, because of violent or sexual content, or because they revealed dishonest tendencies, or you have had repeated dreams of being a victim. Dreams are often not flattering. They show you who you are, where your weaknesses are. In the beginning your mind will tell you not to write down certain parts of the dream, or to alter it a little bit. Don't give in. You need to recognize both the pleasant and unpleasant parts of yourself. Remember, it is not you, only your tendencies. You are a divine being, your personality is like a vehicle you took on for this incarnation. Like a car, it needs constant fixing. It is important that you write down every detail of the dream. By writing it down, you bring your hidden, unconscious tendencies into full awareness. By analyzing the dream and penetrating its symbols you are recognizing the problem. The next step is to change your dreams. Yes, you can do that. If you were attacked in a dream, you want to get out of that pattern of being a victim. Close your eyes, and recreate the dream, this time consciously. Change the dream, turn around and face your attacker and kill him. Yes, kill him with love. The attacker in the dream represent an energy in your soul that is subduing your power to stand up for yourself. Killing the attacker in your mind is a symbolic act to dissolve this subduing energy. The attacker will then turn into a benevolent energy, emerging into a dream friend. Energy cannot disappear, it can only be transformed. Here we are transforming it into a friendly energy. Therefore when you kill opposing forces in your dream, do it with love or at least out of necessity, never with angry emotions. It will take several tries to change a dream like that, but result is guaranteed.
Knowing yourself is the key to spiritual evolution. "Know thyself, and knowing thyself you will know the Divine" (inscription at the oracle in Delphi, Greece). Everything that happened to you in the first twenty years of your life is built into the foundation of your being, for the simple reason that as a child you were unable to shield yourself against outside influences. Towards adulthood you learned how to protect yourself, but by then you were already full of programs put into your mind by your parents, the school and anyone else who had an influence on you. This also applies to events. Sexual abuse during childhood, for example, has a tremendous impact on the soul for the rest of one's life. The rebirthing process, initiated by Leonard Orr, is a good tool to come into contact, re-experience and release emotional blockages of your past. It eventually will eliminate primal trauma and transform the subconscious impression of birth into a gentle and awakening event.
Look back at your childhood and what happened in those days. All your present relationships are based on how the relationship with your father and mother developed. A child's character is formed for a large part by its environment. A child takes its environment as "this is what the world is like". It thinks that the rest of the world is the same as what he is experiencing around him. Thus he forms his character. If a child grows up with abusive parents, he might think that being abusive is the only way to survive in this world, and he will become himself abusive to other people later in life. Or he might himself see as a helpless victim, and will always be taken advantage of. How did you experience your parents, your brothers and sisters? What did they do to you that you didn't like or what traumatized you. A simple sentence like "You are an annoying brat", "I never wanted you, you were an accident" can have a devastating effect. Being wrongly accused, even if the matter was trivial, might instill a big guilt complex in a child. Search your memories for those forgotten traumas and discover how they link to your present day behavior. Most important, forgive the people who have hurt you. It is not always easy, but if you don't forgive them, you are holding on to the pain and to your feelings of irritation, guilt, fear and so on. It is not necessary to tell them in person. Forgiveness has to happen inside yourself. Be truthful and sincere towards yourself. When you forgive those who have hurt you, you have to mean it. Forgiveness is liberation, liberation of all those negative emotions, thoughts and fear.
Pay attention to this last word: fear. Who is without fear? Are you? Of course not. You might think you are, but this is just pride. We all have fears. Your fears are lurking underneath the surface, grabbing every opportunity they can to express themselves. Fear of disapproval, fear of authorities, fear of being hurt, fear of losing your partner, fear of injury, the list is endless. Some fears are instinctual to guarantee your survival on this planet. However most of the fears you have created during your lifetime are of psychological origin. Fear cripples and disables. It takes away the joy of life. Make a list of all your fears, even those that seem small and insignificant. Again be honest and accept your fears. Acceptance is the first step to recovery. Releasing is next. You could take a psychological approach and use, for example, gestalt therapy. As fears are also locked in the physical body, especially in the muscles, a good Rolfing massage might be the solution. Bach Flower remedies or Homeopathy work on the energetic level. Many other approaches exist. Choose one you are comfortable with.
Don't forget that the issues in your life have a purpose: to make you aware of inner imbalances. You really have to go to the root of your problems, or your fears, and do something about it. Healing done by another person is only a temporary solution if you don't change the underlying cause. The disease or fear will eventually come back. True healing can only be done by yourself. Therefore you need to understand who you are in this lifetime. What does your personality consists of, what are your imbalances, your fears. Work on it, work, work, work! Every day you need to work on it. Relentlessly. It is hard work but the results are worth while: the realization of your true potential: a light being on Earth.
Now that you have discovered that you have a rich inner world, although not perfect, it makes you aware that as an individual you are interacting with and influenced by other people. People who make up the totality of mankind. No one is isolated, we are all connected. Now you are ready to progress one step further on the stairway of consciousness. Let's enter the level of mankind's consciousness.
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