Like others have said, it's not unusual at all.
I've said this before and I'll say it again: Who really sees themselves as trans as opposed to male? The whole point of being transsexual is that you just see yourself as male, so it's not unusual for guys (especially pre-T and early on T, when the chip on your shoulder is the hugest) to insist that they are not "trans," just "male."
But I think they misunderstand what identifying as trans means. Being trans just denotes a certain background, as far as I understand it; I take it the same way as a lot of people take their race. I don't take "trans" as something that specifically denotes a person's gender identity (your gender identity, after all is "just male" if you're a transguy, usually, and has nothing to do with whether you're trans or bio), just something that implies a specific sort of social background.
I know this sounds weird, but I think people need to stop associating being trans as something having to do directly with a person's gender identity. You would identify as male anyway whether you were trans or bio, right? So being trans has nothing to do with your gender, necessarily, it just describes the relationship your gender had with your upbringing in society. Some people (especially the general public, who know little about us) make it out to be more than that.
Personally, I consider myself male AND acknowledge that I am not the same as a non-transmale in the sense that I have a different background in that I was raised as if I were female. That is what "trans" means to me.
Quote from: NatkatI belive some transgender people just want to be "normal" and dont feel like doing a big fuss about them being trans, if they dont need.
I perfectly understand those and in a way I would like that as well. but for my situation I cant deal with the guilt of just ignoring the knowlegde I have as everything where "fine" and just fit in cause I have too. I do feel a certain responsible for standing up for myself or others, which make me as transexual to be more than just a regular guy.
Then there's this. Yes. Some of us are willing to toss away a stealth life for these reasons. The more of us that do this, though, ironically, the more "normal" being trans will be viewed, the more of a non-issue it will be, the more being stealth won't matter.
So, in a perfect world, I would say, all of us could be male AND openly trans, just as other people can be male and openly Hispanic, male and openly white, male and openly Trekkies, etc. (Once the world understands that being trans or not has nothing to do with maleness [or femaleness].)
EDIT: I always add more crap. Always.
