Feel too old and out of place

[Natkat]

Wow, thank you for all the feedback, everyone - I truly wasn't expecting it.   I'm happy that I'm not alone in these feelings - I feel torn about the support group here in Adelaide because they're lovely people, but I just can't seem to get anything out of the sessions or give back.  Susan's is great, but I just spend a lot of time searching for topics that I can contribute to and I don't find many   But thank you all - I'll still be here, but just needed to know if what I feel was unreasonable.

I don't think what you feel is unreasonable. We all got diffrent life and problems, and have diffrent parts to relate too and not.

btw I don't think you should worry to much about giving back part.
for many people just knowing your not alone, or seeing other transpeople is already something to give.

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btw I don't think you should worry to much about giving back part.
for many people just knowing your not alone, or seeing other transpeople is already something to give.

This!

Before I came out, being trans was VERY. Lonely for me, finding somewhere I could read others stories was a light in a very dark place, coming to terms with who we are and what we must do is a very individual process, but it's a good feeling to know you aren't alone, you're never alone! So wether you think you give back or not, you do


I felt old too, like I'd wasted my whole life (I came out just after turning 28) it's hard when you're surrounded by lots of young lads going through it, and seemingly having the balls to be true to themselves at an early age, oh ok I'm still a bit jealous of that! << crawls back in cave>>

[Natkat]

This!

Before I came out, being trans was VERY. Lonely for me, finding somewhere I could read others stories was a light in a very dark place, coming to terms with who we are and what we must do is a very individual process, but it's a good feeling to know you aren't alone, you're never alone! So wether you think you give back or not, you do


I felt old too, like I'd wasted my whole life (I came out just after turning 28) it's hard when you're surrounded by lots of young lads going through it, and seemingly having the balls to be true to themselves at an early age, oh ok I'm still a bit jealous of that! << crawls back in cave>>

its not nessesarry about having the guts to do it who is the matter, it also has something to do about how your situation is in general around you and how ready you are.
some people first find out what trans mean late in life, or have the chance to transition later and so on,

even thought im pretty young, I could have transitioned even earlyer if I just knew the right information and people at that time, but because I didnt and insteed got told stuff like it where imposible at my time and so I got to wait. even when its only a couple of years and im still young I really hate the felling of it and could blame so many people and things, but to be honest theres nothing to do about it, we cant really change the past, or when we are able to transition, we can only chance the future as getting all we where missing for that long.

[mowdan6]

Wow.  I don't post much here anymore.  But to hear how some of you think....in your 20's and 30's are too old???  I did'nt start my transition until my 40's.  Only because I never knew the option existed.  You are never too old to be who you are.  I don't post much because I feel, with my age, I also can't relate to the younger group.  I am now 54, been transitioning for years.  Still looking to do and saving for the bottom surgery.  Yea, being an older transman, not much support for that. 

[Ayden]

I fall into the 20's catagory, so I am not 'older' though I consider 30's still pretty youthful. I can honestly say though, knowing that there are older guys out there and other guys out there it makes me feel much less alone. Even if we don't always have everything in common, just knowing that I can talk to others makes me feel much more at ease. Besides, all of my friends are older, and they have given me so much in terms of advice and support.